Partner never wants to go out

Norma_Desmond

You won't find anyone more 'boring' and quiet than me, but I just love the odd night out at the local village pub or a meal in town.

I think that it's healthy to now and then meet up and have interaction with other people; especially where we live - can go days without seeing a soul except for DH!

Imelda

How did it go DeeDee?

I have a similar problem, I am very sociable, have several groups of friends and have to socialise for work but my OH prefers to stay at home. He has some friends but nearly always turns down invitations. He then complains that his friends don't invite him anywhere!!
Although I must admit he is fine when it is just the two of us (but given the choice of a meal out or staying in he would go for the latter).
I have tried to integrate him with my friends but it depends on his mood whether he will come or not- this is a huge bugbear as he will only decide about an hour before we go anywhere whether he is coming or not. I am always making excuses for him.

It definitely comes down to confidence, but I think the more he stays in the less confident he becomes. We have been together for 3 years and I refuse to give up my social life, it would become a source of huge resentment and I don't think it will be helpful in the long run.

LizD_2

I felt I should my put my two pence in.

My DH is sociable and likes to go out a lot (when the money is there). I'm the opposite - I like my own company or just to be with him or a small number of close friends at somebodies house.

We have had several times where I have just refused to go out - and yes, a lot of it is to with a lack of confidence and/or mild depression on my part. Socialising does not take my mind off things. I also have a problem with paying over-inflated prices for mediocre food and drink.

Maybe this is part of why your partner prefers to stay in.