Help!!

antronella

If you are not honest with him now...and he leaves his partner and child...how much harder will it be to say how you feel then? You absolutely must tell him, and don't leave any room for misunderstanding on his part....And Do it Fast!!

Savvy_Sue

advice_needed_urgently wrote: »

How do I tell him, I dont want to hurt his feelings and admit Im not bothered about him atall but i can see myself being with him through guilt rather than choice.

STUFF hurting his feelings. What consideration has he had for his partner's feelings? What consideration has he had for his child?

There are very few times when a "Dear John" letter is acceptable, and usually I'd say a "Dear John" text was beyond the pale, but in this case I'd say a "Dear John" text or email was absolutely fine and dandy!

Here goes

Dear John

Having thought about it, I can't see any point meeting up with you again. I would never have agreed to see you regularly if I had realised you were committed elsewhere, and I do not to be responsible for any further damage to your relationship with Lily and L'il Scrap. Here is the telephone number for your local branch of Relate: whatever your ultimate decision they may be able to help you see your way forward.

If you are thinking of leaving, do not do so on my account, and please do not contact me again.

Kind regards

advice taken urgently

I do not know how to render that in textspeak, having come from a different generation ...

But men can be truly obtuse sometimes, don't beat around the bush, tell him to sling his hook, fast!