Money Moral Dilemma: Should I tip if other diners don't?

jul1961

Always leave a tip, never really had service bad enough to warrant not leaving one.

NBLondon

BethP wrote: »

On board cruise ships we pay the on-board daily gratuities added to our account but also tip our Cabin Steward £50 per week.

So you're paying the equivalent of a service charge (for the room cleaning etc.) and then tipping on top. If the Steward is going out of their way to be helpful - that's your choice.

BethP wrote: »

We tip taxi drivers too if their driving hasn’t scared us and if they greeted us.

You tip them simply for not being terrible at their job? Just getting you there without scaring you is the base level of service. If the driver is particularly cheerful, takes notice of whether you want to chat or not (as opposed to just talking at you), asks where you are going and makes suggestions or tries to find you the most efficient route - now that's worth a tip.

pickledonionspaceraider

Zero_Sum wrote: »

And what if the person eating out is also on min wage. Theyd be tipping someone who earns more once you add in earned tips.

There isnt no excuse for it. As others have said its a ridiculous concept.
Do you tip the person on the checkout at Tesco?

This exactly

I am on minimum wage (I am not complaining btw, I am very happy)

I don't work in an industry where people get tips

Eating out is a rare luxury for me- and tipping? Adding 10% could be the difference between going out and staying in

I mean each to their own, but no one should feel obliged

I mean . Hairdressers too - they earn more than min wage, surely? - once every few months I will go and it is expensive enough without figuring in a tip.

ooogemaflip

I hate it when tips are added to the bill as some places do "service charge" I kick up a stink then and make them remove it. I choose if I give a tip on the service. If the waiting staff is polite and helpful then I am more likely to leave a little more

le_veilleur

I think that you should always leave a tip. Considering the things that waiters are dealing with - they're massively underpaid most of the time.

pickledonionspaceraider

le_veilleur wrote: »

I think that you should always leave a tip. Considering the things that waiters are dealing with - they're massively underpaid most of the time.

What so bad, that waiters deal with?

Peter_Lanky

le_veilleur wrote: »

I think that you should always leave a tip. Considering the things that waiters are dealing with - they're massively underpaid most of the time.

Waiting is a doddle compared with some low paid jobs.

Health care assistants in hospital have far more to do, such as cleaning up incontinent patients; being looked down upon by more senior staff such as nurses and therapists, being routinely referred to as 'unqualified'; working long unsociable shifts; constantly being called for by inpatient patients who think their needs are the most important; dealing with occasional violent brain injury patients, and so on.

No tipping expected or given here.

Out,_Vile_Jelly

If it's good service I tip, and I make a point of tipping properly if the rest of the group are being stingy. Note that none of the people I eat out with are on minimum wage (far from it); they are just still stuck in the student mindset of arguing about how to split a £3.80 cab fare 4 ways. I personally find this really embarrassing.



I would describe myself as "financially comfortable" rather than rich, and one of the aspects of no longer worrying about bills and waiting for pay day is to pass some of this onto others in the form of decent tipping for low wage service jobs (whilst tipping for meal service is still culturally normal).


One of the things that attracted me to my partner is that he's a generous tipper and regularly offers to buy bar staff a drink (which is always appreciated). I couldn't stand going out with someone in their 40s on a professional salary who begrudgingly counted out coppers for tips or tried to escape their turn for a round.

db2016

personally,

I eat out in somewhere like pizza hut and a couple of local indian places maybe 4-6 times a year (and i tip 10% ish but use whatever change i have so may be more ,maybe less by 50p-£1 here or there - the other eating out times are pub grub obviously no tipping there.

i have been out with some people or on dates etc where they almost look at me as if i'm daft for doing so though!

i'd begrudge going on a cruise though tbf, i don't know the fulls ins and outs, but it seems that they are expected and for everyone you encounter! that could seriously add up on a holiday bill and i'd feel that!

JayD

We always tip for good service - and not for poor service. So, if you feel you had good service, I would say 'leave a tip' even if you are the only one doing so. BUT - didn't you even mention it to your fellow diners? They sound like a mean lot!