so called family resturant!

Poppy9

Bargainbabe wrote:

Poppy- My son is in full time school as been since last september. And I never said it was ok to do all those things mentioned in your post.

Oh I'm also a lunchtime supervisor in a school, so I know all about children and their table manners- I re-enforce them daily.

I didn't say you did I just wanted to say that all parents have a different opinion when it comes to acceptable childrens behaviour. From one of my earlier posts you will see that friends of mine think its ok for their child to wander around a resturant eating icecream from a dish just because its a family friendly establishment:mad: IMO children need to be taught rules and boundaries. It has to start at home so that good behaviour is normal from the 9 children in my family (nieces/nephews own etc) I have never witnessed one of them having a tantrum - oh I lie I saw my 23 year old niece having one because she's jealous of her brothers g/f.:eek: Not one of them ever had a screaming fit in a supermarket etc because they couldn't have what they wanted. They may have sulked - don't we all :rolleyes: as they sure weren't little angels just that they knew that screaming, shouting and hitting was not acceptable. THERE IS ONLY ONE PERSON ALLOWED TO SHOUT IN MY HOUSE - GUESS WHO:rotfl:

Kantankrus_Mare

I myself am one of the "innocent servers" in a cafe bar which although aims mainly at adults, caters for children also.

Most children are well behaved and polite but there is ALWAYS an exception to the rule.

Every sunday we have a family come in with a two and a half year old little girl. The mother orders a baby bowl for her little darling which is essentially mushed up meat and veg (the child should be eating solids at this age!)

Both before and after her "mush" the mother parades this poor kid around the restaurant chatting to other customers and generally getting in the waitresses way risking something being spilt..... and YES the restaurant would be liable. We have politely asked the woman to keep the child seated but to no avail and if confined to her chair the child screams the place down spoiling every other customers sunday lunch.

I have kids of my own but when they were this age I refused to take them anywhere to eat until they could be relied upon to act accordingly.

Or alternatively you go to a place that totally caters primarily for children.

Harsh I know but ive been on all sides of this problem and think its unfair to spoil peoples meals with kids that dont know how to behave.

Bargainbabe_2

Poppy9 wrote:

I didn't say you did I just wanted to say that all parents have a different opinion when it comes to acceptable childrens behaviour.

yes and this is exactly what I was saying. I personally would never allow my son to run around a restaurant or act inappropiately in that situation. As I stated in my post, not all parents do control their kids and it is annoying. But it happens and it always will unfortunately. In fact in today's day and age where discipline seems to becoming a thing of the past (childrens rights act is getting out of control!) I can only predict it will become much worse!

SidB_2

OK Margaret, I think we're talking about 2 different types of restaurant, so I guess we'll have to agree to disagree. I believed the original poster was talking about the "Brewsters" type establishment, which do have a soft play area attached, and in my view are aimed at families with younger children. I also wouldn't call your example as a "family" group, but more a group of adults. If I took my mother to lunch I wouldn't call us a faily group, would you ? I guess our definitions are different.

I believe that the manager was being over zelaous, and should have had the discretion to quietly mention to the OP that this was not the area for children, but that he would only ask them to move if there was a shortage of tables or he had a complaint from other customers.

IvanOpinion

Having read through this again I think it is great that everybody who posts on this board has such wonderful children ... I just wish one of the parents of the obnoxious little brat who knocked a drink over me last night would post ... yes the 6-8ish year old that told me to 'f*** off' when I told him to be careful ... the parents will know who I am talking about because despite seeing what happened they immediately turned their heads the other way and ignored that their brat was still running around ... no apology, no telling off for the child ... as one of the waitresses told me on the way out the child is well known and it is only a matter of time before he has an 'accident' (apparently several of the waiters have already tried to subtly kick or trip him up).

At least the restaurant has offered to dry-clean my suit .. .more than the useless incompetent parents dd. :mad:

Ivan

SidB_2

I love kids.

But I couldn't eat a whole one.

Boom boom

Kantankrus_Mare

Sat here chuckling at Ivans comment about waiting staff wanting to subtly kick or trip up brats of kids in restaurants!

I've never EVER thought that about any little darlings. Honest!!

SidB_2

I know this is slightly off topic, well maybe not. I'd rather have a kid running wild than a yobbo swearing loudly when there are women and children about. My friends son, who was 3, actually turned round to her and asked "mummy what does f***" mean ? Give me kids anyday.

SaraSeahorse

IvanOpinion wrote:

... as one of the waitresses told me on the way out the child is well known and it is only a matter of time before he has an 'accident' (apparently several of the waiters have already tried to subtly kick or trip him up).

Ivan

I do have sense of humour but quite frankly find adults conspiring to cause an accident for a child whether or not he 'deserves it' quite disgusting. Nothing more than assault and despicable behaviour for adults. What next fork inthe back of a hand accidentally for a child that spills a drink so that the waitress has to wipe the table (rather than just leave it seemingly clean but tacky!!).

Come on, yes children need to behave. Parents are ultimately responsible, here we have example of badly behaved child and poor parenting. If the child is that bad ask parents to leave and not come back again. Or if child is just moderate nuisance then maybe a polite request may encourage the parents to behave and if not then are they the sort of customers the pub wants?? But conspiring to trip up or injure a CHILD, disgusting.

Poppy9

SaraSeahorse I do have sense of humour but quite frankly find adults conspiring to cause an accident for a child whether or not he 'deserves it' quite disgusting. Nothing more than assault and despicable behaviour for adults. What next fork inthe back of a hand accidentally for a child that spills a drink so that the waitress has to wipe the table (rather than just leave it seemingly clean but tacky!!).

Yes :rotfl:

Come on, yes children need to behave. Parents are ultimately responsible, here we have example of badly behaved child and poor parenting. If the child is that bad ask parents to leave and not come back again. Or if child is just moderate nuisance then maybe a polite request may encourage the parents to behave and if not then are they the sort of customers the pub wants?? But conspiring to trip up or injure a CHILD, disgusting.

Ok you've convinced me, leave the kids alone, fork the parents, spit in their food and spill the drinks all over them .:rotfl: