so called family resturant!

margaret_3

Gwenhwyfar_(Guinevere) wrote:

I'm glad your children behaved, I have 4 children, and, on the rare occassions that we do go out they sit at the table, talk and wait for their food, have table manners and are a joy, ask to go to the loo, and know how to place the cutlery when they have finished (and always say please and thank you) -(wish they behaved like that at home all the time! )
I do believe it is the parents to blame, how is a child going to learn to behave in certain situations if they are just allowed to do as they please.

And TABLE MANNERS!!!! :eek: why can't parents teach young ones, NOT TO EAT WITH THEIR MOUTH OPEN, NO ELBOWS AND ARMS ON TABLES, and HOLD THE CUTLERY PROPERLY, YOU KNOW A KNIFE AND A FORK!!!!

NO I'm not a tyrant but I think EVERYONE should have decent table manners while they are out. :rotfl: AND respect for the people who are waiting on you. :rotfl:

What a lovely, sensible post.
Thanks.
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Margaret

Poppy9

Gwenhwyfar_(Guinevere) wrote:

I'm glad your children behaved, I have 4 children, and, on the rare occassions that we do go out they sit at the table, talk and wait for their food, have table manners and are a joy, ask to go to the loo, and know how to place the cutlery when they have finished (and always say please and thank you) -(wish they behaved like that at home all the time! )
I do believe it is the parents to blame, how is a child going to learn to behave in certain situations if they are just allowed to do as they please.

And TABLE MANNERS!!!! :eek: why can't parents teach young ones, NOT TO EAT WITH THEIR MOUTH OPEN, NO ELBOWS AND ARMS ON TABLES, and HOLD THE CUTLERY PROPERLY, YOU KNOW A KNIFE AND A FORK!!!!

NO I'm not a tyrant but I think EVERYONE should have decent table manners while they are out. :rotfl: AND respect for the people who are waiting on you. :rotfl:

Now you just need to train your OH:D

margaret_3

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bargainhuntersupre

The one time I wished we could have sat in the adult area in a family pub/resturant was a couple of years ago. We went for lunch during the day in term time- there were 4 adults aged between 30-75 and ONE 3 week old baby fast asleep.
Nobody was in the adults area except us but the resturant insisted that we had to move to the family area where there were LOADS of toddlers running round screaming blue murder.
This then woke the baby up and my SIL spent her time feeding her while eating with one hand. Surely a tiny sleeping baby wasnt likely to run around disturbing any other diners- seemed a bit pathetic to me

calleyw

Gwenhwyfar_(Guinevere) wrote:

I'm glad your children behaved, I have 4 children, and, on the rare occassions that we do go out they sit at the table, talk and wait for their food, have table manners and are a joy, ask to go to the loo, and know how to place the cutlery when they have finished (and always say please and thank you) -(wish they behaved like that at home all the time! )
I do believe it is the parents to blame, how is a child going to learn to behave in certain situations if they are just allowed to do as they please.

And TABLE MANNERS!!!! :eek: why can't parents teach young ones, NOT TO EAT WITH THEIR MOUTH OPEN, NO ELBOWS AND ARMS ON TABLES, and HOLD THE CUTLERY PROPERLY, YOU KNOW A KNIFE AND A FORK!!!!

NO I'm not a tyrant but I think EVERYONE should have decent table manners while they are out. :rotfl: AND respect for the people who are waiting on you. :rotfl:

Prehaps because they don't have table manners at home. Most probably don't even have a table and eat there meals off there laps in front of the TV. Mind you have you seen the way a lot of adults eat, shoveling it in like someone is going to steal it away from them.

As husband and me are a couple with no children. I am not keen when I go out on the rare occasion that we go out for a meal to have screaming kids around.

One pub we use to frequent had adult dining after 6pm. So no children under 13 where allowed in. It was bliss.

But I have now moved so now have to find somewhere else to go and have a nice quiet meal.

Yours

Calley

Bargainbabe_2

Firstly, I will point out that I am a mother of a 5 year old little boy so I am a little biased. He is well mannered, polite and generally well behaved. I personally do all I can to instil this goodness in him. But I don't like to constantly go on at him, cos he's a child afterall! I do/have to make allowances for his age. You can't expect children to "be seen and not heard" all the time, regardless of their upbringing. They are NOT adults. I doubt that anyone on here could claim that they were perfect lil angels when they were growing up.

When children go to places like "Whacky Warehouse" they will naturally be excited; some more than others. Of course parents should keep their offspring under control but not all children are the same and all familes bring their children up differently.
My local one has the play apparatus and a self serve ice cream machine. I would say this is aimed at families with children. It's certainly not a place you would go for a "quiet meal" for adult familes.

Anyway, JMPO as ever of course.....

Poppy9

Gwenhwyfar_(Guinevere) wrote:

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Bargainbabe

Problem is that all parents have a different opinion on making allowances when it comes to childrens behaviour.

Some parents think its ok for their little darlings to run off into these play areas and push and hit other kids out of the way, because that is what kids do! They generally are the parents who sit at their table for hours on end not knowing or caring what their child is upto on the play equipment. They wouldn't dream of getting up off their chair to have a 5 minute check that they were behaving themselves.

I agree with other posters that no child is too young to have table manners and how to behave in certain circumstances. Basic things like sitting and eating their food off a plate with cutlery, not spitting out food onto the table if they don't like it etc. I am amazed when 10 year old kids come to my house for tea and they eat with their fingers or don't know how to hold a knife and fork. Many ask why is there no telly in the kitchen. If they are left handed I don't care if they hold cutlery in the 'wrong' hand but I show them the correct holding and cutting motion to make it easier for them to put the food into their mouth (not down their chest!). Children have to learn discipline at home as it will stand them in good stead when they are in school. When your son starts school you will realise how disruptive it is to have kids in the class who can't sit still, have no respect for other children or teachers. Then your child complains that over school lunch kids try to turn their food in vomit and chew with an open mouth on purpose to put other people off their food. Not funny when you have paid for a meal and your child comes home hungry because they couldn't face their food.

Bargainbabe_2

Poppy- My son is in full time school as been since last september. And I never said it was ok to do all those things mentioned in your post.

Oh I'm also a lunchtime supervisor in a school, so I know all about children and their table manners- I re-enforce them daily.

jazzyjustlaw

Well this is a little difficult. I am a parent when myself and OH are out on our own we like to sit with adults. Not being offensive but sometimes children are lef to run around. We too do our shopping late at night as we do not want children bumping into us and screaming around the aisles.

On the otherhand my sister has 5 under 9 and I often go to places with her and we sit in the family section. I know a lot of people that do not have children and they get irate when children are running riot.

What happened to the lady in the OP is unfair but I expect it was the minority who ruined it for the majority.

Can I just say as a young mum - am 33 and my daughter is 15 that those who havent got children are are not used to it whereas us parents may not notice the noise as much. My OH has not got any children and he gets annoyed after 2 hours of being arounda group of children - he cannot stand it.