Advice please - inherited gift

Wellgood

Situation is that my grandmother passed away and left me her car but nothing to my 3 sisters. I now have a surplus car so am going to sell a different older car i have. Question is i think i should split the money from the sale of the car with my sisters (as they didn't get anything from my grandmother) but my partner says we should use it for ourselves. What would you do in this case?

comeandgo

Condolences on the passing of your grandmother, she must have thought highly of you to leave you her car. I actually agree with you, splitting the value of the car you don't need with your sisters is a generous gesture. I do wonder why your partner is interfering in your decision and wanting to keep the money to be spent on her/him and you.

maman

On the face of it I agree you should split the proceeds of selling the car with your sisters.

Out of interest, any reason you can think of why your grandmother did as she did?

K80_Black

You could always 'meet in the middle' - your sisters won't know how much your car sold for anyways, you can gift them some, and keep some to spend with your husband. Really depends on the amounts involved and everyones circumstances - my sister is far more wealthy than me, and would prefer me to treat myself if I had a small windfall for example.

JJG

For a different opinion, is there a reason your grandmother left you a car and your sisters nothing?

chesky

How do your sisters feel about the situation? Have they suggested you do this, or is it your own idea.

trailingspouse

Your grandmother, your inheritance - your decision.

Your first thought was to split it with your sisters, and you're only thinking differently because your partner says you should keep it yourselves.



Some thoughts

- don't keep it just to placate your partner, it's not up to them what you do with your own money

- if the situation was reversed, and your partner had inherited something that they planned to share with their siblings, how would you feel?
- not sharing the money with your sisters will affect your relationship with them - how do you feel about that?


I think you know what feels right for you - so you need to stick with that.

Sea_Shell

Your decision entirely.

If your selling your original "older" car, what is it worth (in comparison to the one you've inherited)?

E.g. you inherit a car worth £10,000, sell yours worth £6000 and split the £6000 3 ways. They get £2000 each, but you're £4000 up on the deal.

However, if you've got £6000 of, say, debt outstanding, I can see your partner's viewpoint.

Only you know the dynamics of your family well enough to judge.

hazyjo

Maybe she thought you needed it more than them. How much is it worth? If it's just a few hundred quid or a grand or two, I think you should just keep it. If it's twenty grand, maybe that's a different kettle of fish :think: Maybe they didn't really think about the value and how others might expect or like a bit of the pie and just thought it'll depreciate and you might as well have it for nothing. Eventually it will be worthless and you might as well get use out of it.


If someone had left my nephew a car and not his sisters, I don't think any of us would expect him to sell and split the proceeds. We'd all say 'that's nice that someone saw he was driving round in an old car and left him a newer one'. Don't think anyone would think he should be splitting it!


I'd be inclined to respect someone's wishes. There must be a reason!

gabriel1980

Keep the money!

tindella

First thought - take another look at your partner.

Second thoughts: do your siblings know and do they care? Are they better off? Had they upset your grandmother?

If there's no major reason why she didn't leave them anything, do what YOU feel is best for you. Do not be dictated to by anyone else!