Aspergers/ASD support thread

jellyhead

Hi, just jumping in at the end of the thread ... I read on MSE about 'firegazing'. It was just a general comment about homework, not about autism.

The theory goes that kids need some time to unwind and just 'fire gaze'. When I was little I used to watch the raindrops on the windows. My kids like to flop in front of the TV and just veg for a while.

I rarely make my son do homework on a school night. School is hard work and it's a long day for a small child who is one of the youngest and is behind is many ways. If he is in the right mood we talk about his spellings or he reads from his book, but most nights I don't make him do it. he talks about spellings on the walk to school and I am interested and involved in his education, but outside of school I would rather he spent his time on the park or jumping in puddles, or going to youth club, gymnastics or whatever.

Mandles

Gingham_R wrote: »

Mandles, how would your son feel about allowing you to film him in the evening? If his teachers could see just how worn out by it all he is by the end of the day they MIGHT start backing off on the expectations of the infuriating reading record book.

Thanks again for all your suggestions and thoughts. Yes, i have tried filming him on my phone but i can never do it for long as the minute he discovers he is being filmed he gets angrier than ever and either runs upstairs or grabs my phone away.

I think the SENCO is my next move. I know some people say just force them to do things but i say that if it is just fear of the unknown etc then ok, push them but if my child has reached his limit then NO!

Savvy_Sue

Mandles wrote: »

Thanks again for all your suggestions and thoughts. Yes, i have tried filming him on my phone but i can never do it for long as the minute he discovers he is being filmed he gets angrier than ever and either runs upstairs or grabs my phone away.

Which is why GR suggested asking his permission. Maybe if you explain that you are trying to help the school understand how difficult he finds school and how he needs to unwind because otherwise he's like x, y, z, maybe then he will allow it.

Flyboy152

Mandles,

You could try one of these.

raq

morning all

Just a short note really. Anybody has any ideas about helping with costs on our renovation for our house. We are doing a bedroom for our little boy who has mild autism.

A member of our family mentioned it but I was just "Blank" at this information

Regards
xx

Savvy_Sue

raq wrote: »

Just a short note really. Anybody has any ideas about helping with costs on our renovation for our house. We are doing a bedroom for our little boy who has mild autism.

A member of our family mentioned it but I was just "Blank" at this information

Disabled Facilities Grant? Have a google, pretty sure you won't get it for re-decorating, but if you need to do something major then that could be the thing. But if the autism is mild, not sure you would qualify.

thegirlintheattic

Mandles wrote: »

Thanks both of you for your words and advice. He used to be like a zombie for hours after school and not talk, not look at you, answer you...he had just "gone" . It used to break my heart to see him like that. He is still is quite like that after school but sometimes just incredibly angry. I agree, it is purely all the stress and overstimulation from school coming out so i feel that why on earth should i force him to do homework when he is like that? He is only 6 and he just goes to his room and spends time quietly unwinding with lego or something like that and it works for him. And if the work is that important, it surely should be done at school. As i say, i am more than happy for him to do work at weekends and school holidays so why is it so hard for the school to bend and keep making such an issue out of this?
He has clubs he does weekends and school holidays and i have social stories at home for him and he is a different child wekends and school holidays.
I have a much, older son with ASD and he has a very happy, sucessful , active life so i think i deal with it fine but sometimes schools just need to listen as i know my sons limits better than them and for age 6 i think he is doing quite well and for him right now, 6 hours a day of school is his limit.

Some kids are like this - ASD or not. Firstly, I would speak to the head again as I seem to remember you coming up with an agreement before for him not to have to do homework. This may have been forgotten over time.

Playing devil's advocate, getting into a habit of homework is good thing - even at 6. If the school still insist on homework maybe come to an agreement with the school that you will do something educational (reading or some sums maybe) for 5 mins a week. Approach it very casually with your son - don't call it homework - just do you want to read to mummy whilst she... or shall we read this in the bath.... That way your meeting the school half way and setting some good habits for later one. I can completely understand that a full day at school is a lot for a 6 year old - so I would push the school on maybe only weekend homework.

As for your safety concerns in traffic - put these in writing, make sure they are on his IEP and all adults who care for him are aware.

thegirlintheattic

raq wrote: »

morning all

Just a short note really. Anybody has any ideas about helping with costs on our renovation for our house. We are doing a bedroom for our little boy who has mild autism.

A member of our family mentioned it but I was just "Blank" at this information

Regards
xx

Disabled charities? Kith and Kids in London is good - don't know if they provide grants but they may be able to point you in the right direction or put you in touch with parents who may have bits and pieces they don't need anymore.

raq

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

Disabled Facilities Grant? Have a google, pretty sure you won't get it for re-decorating, but if you need to do something major then that could be the thing. But if the autism is mild, not sure you would qualify.

thankyou for the information.

some people on here should be shot

raq

Flyboy152 wrote: »

What help do you think you need? I can give you some decorating tips.

Thankyou for your kind words . lol.

You have no idea have you??? You shouldn,t even be on this site if you can,t give out information without hurting people