Work Related Stress - What are my options?

London50

Just remember to stick to that reply :0) Good luck for the future and remember we may be strangers to you but we have your understanding and are here to listen and advise where we can.

martinbuckley

OP, it seems like the managers are kicking the can down the road, eeking out 2-4-1 work versus wages for as long as they can.

For your health and sanity, you need to stop working yourself into the ground NOW. You are paid a wage to do a job, and the expectation is you do that job to the best of your ability. You are not paid a wage to do the job of two people.

Start working your hours, doing as much as you can in that time, and then return to your own life. If deadlines are missed, that is not your fault, it is the fault of those above you who have abused your good nature for their own ends.

20aday

Itsjustsammy19 wrote: »

Thank you for all the replies. I totally hear what you are saying and I know I've built a rod for my own back but I don't like letting my employers or customers down. I work really hard but I'm beginning to feel like they are taking the P now. I was meant to have a meeting with senior boss yesterday as my own boss is on holiday but they never got back to me, I emailed them last night and asked when the meeting would be rescheduled but they never replied (I am out on a customer visit today). I feel the final straw came this week when my boyfriend told me yesterday he had been feeling unwell since Sunday but I was so bloody wrapped up in work to notice :-(
My HR department are notoriously rubbish and they won't help.
I haven't handed my notice in but if I did then I would have to give 2 months notice.

I guess my main concern (apart from my health) is having to explain why I was signed off sick to my next employer. Some will be understanding but others may see it differently.

BIB: I know exactly where you are coming from OP as I've been the same in the past. It isn't easy knowing when it's time to take a step back and look at the bigger picture but someone I've got to know at work very well over the last eight months has shown me there's no shame in saying 'enough is enough' and when to stand your ground.

As others have rightly pointed out turn up to work, do what you can in the hours you normally work, then go home again remembering to 'clock out' mentally too. After all it's your managers who are going to have to explain why to X,Y and Z about deadlines being missed etc.

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Itsjustsammy19 wrote: »

I will just add as well that I can't be too hard on my manager as he is recovering from cancer

Not in post no 1... Talk about drip feeding when it's alright.

You've been in the job less then a year.

Itsjustsammy19

Thank you for your, mostly, helpful comments.
I am definitely not working longer than I should now. My colleague has just handed her notice but I'm making it clear I'm not doing 2 people's jobs on my own again.
This has actually given me a push to look for another job on higher money and a higher position. I'm taking what I can out of my current job and I will use it in my next one :-)