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Money Moral Dilemma: Should we go back and pay for our meal?

edited 30 November -1 at 1:00AM in Marriage, Relationships & Families
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edited 30 November -1 at 1:00AM in Marriage, Relationships & Families
This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks...
We recently went for a meal in our local family-run pub. While waiting for dessert, the owner announced they were closing due to an emergency (their dog had had a seizure). At the time they insisted what we'd eaten was on the house - but should we go back and offer to pay?

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  • mundibananasmundibananas Forumite
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    I assume you eat there frequently given it's your local ... to avoid awkwardness, next time you go in, perhaps enquire about the health of the pooch and suggest donating to a local animal charity of their choice ...
  • onwards&upwardsonwards&upwards Forumite
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    I would go back, they probably just wanted everybody out ASAP so they could lock up and dash to the vet.
  • SpendlessSpendless Forumite
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    No. They told you it was on the house so it was. Next time you dine there leave them a generous tip. It's not like you did a runner is it.
  • Marvel1Marvel1 Forumite
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    Yes, I would, they probably didn't have time to work out what people owe and take payment.
  • PollycatPollycat Forumite
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    I assume you eat there frequently given it's your local ... to avoid awkwardness, next time you go in, perhaps enquire about the health of the pooch and suggest donating to a local animal charity of their choice ...

    Nice suggestion. :T
    I don't think I would feel comfortable benefiting from a crisis in a place I eat or drink regularly.
    I guess other people may feel differently.
    @ the people who do think differently - who do you think has funded your meal?
    Don't you think they have had enough expense with the vet fees?

    It's a local, family run place.
  • unholyangelunholyangel Forumite
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    What I'd do would depend on how they are generally.

    If they're generally horrible people but just really love their dog, I'd probably not bother doing anything.
    If they're generally okay people but still really love their dog, I'd probably make a donation to them for the dogs treatment rather than pay my actual bill amount.
    If they're generally good people then I'd pay my bill.
    If they're generally excellent people who help others out and often put people ahead of profits, I'd consider having a whip round for them to pay for dogs treatment/treat themselves as they see fit. Seizures would (to my mind at least but I'm no vet) indicate theres likely to be expensive tests/treatment or ongoing medication costs.
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  • MoneySeeker1MoneySeeker1 Forumite
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    Yes.

    They would have been just anxious to deal with their diners in the quickest/easiest way possible at the time. But it wouldn't have been a genuinely generous voluntary offer and was obviously a "Quick get them out of the way pronto" offer instead.

    There is a difference between a genuine gift and an enforced gift and I would say that was an enforced gift and it would be "the decent thing" to go back and enquire after dog's welfare and hand over the money owed.
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  • svainsvain Forumite
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    no ... Its a ridiculous scenario that isnt even a dilemma
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    ska_loverska_lover Forumite
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    edited 9 July 2019 at 8:13PM
    Genuinely, I would go back and pay - or I would feel I bad benefited from dogs illness.

    I am sure they felt they had no choice but to offer there to be no charge, when they had to get the diners out
    The opposite of what you know...is also true
  • MrsnMrsn Forumite
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    Mundibananas i like that idea! A little thought and kindness goes a long way
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