Harassment from neighbours

Twolittlebears

mobileron wrote: »

You need to escalate this problem higher up the chain with the local police,ask to see a superior officer and show him your email on here.
You do not have to accept this crap from these people,also contact your local MP.

Ask for them to be charged with a harrassing you, hate Bullys.

I made a complaint 2 weeks ago as I felt ignored by the police. Every time I have needed their help, they have either told me they will be out to see me in the hour and never turned up (several times) or told me they will give warnings to these individuals yet have only phoned them once. When they phoned the family, they made on they were phoning to make sure things were okay and not about me reporting incidents.

I spoke to the Sgt in person 2 weeks ago, he told me they have all had plenty warnings (not true) and that the family will be moving 'next week'. The police have been saying 'next week' for 4 weeks, although they moved out 2 weeks ago they still have the keys for another 2 weeks. The sgt is aware I am still being harassed despite their 'warnings' and I have logged a few more incidents since I spoke to him including the recent assault.

I have asked the officer dealing with it why he tells me he will phone them then doesn't. He was also going to phone them and the HA to find out if they are finished with the house and get the keys taken from them. He didn't follow this up. When I asked why, he said because of the family member being unwell, and then because of the family member passing away.

This family are being allowed to harass and assault me. They are getting away with it because of their mother/wife being poorly then passing away. Would police not bother this family if they committed other crimes during this time? I can tell you not one of them cared about that poor lady. I did like her and got on well with her. I have always felt sorry for her being trapped in that family. They all treated her awful. In her final weeks they couldn't sit with her when she was at her worst, instead they were outside shouting abuse and threats to me. All she asked for was to die in peace. They have been using her illness to play victim and still doing it now.

Grezz24

While this may not be seen as the best response it seems you are getting no where with the police or local authorities. You could try the MP route but have you tried to standup for yourself?

Often a bully will go for someone who they perceive to be weaker than them, and when they are stood upto they back down (im not saying start a full on fight, but I would defend myself if attacked again).

Twolittlebears

I do stand up to these people. They are always with another or 3 plus others when they are harassing me. They never dare say a word to me when they are alone and pass me or my home. They can only bully me when they are together.

They know I am not scared of them as such but I feel very intimidated when they are together as it's all of them against me. When I was assaulted I did want to fight back but then it would be me that would be arrested.

Skiddaw1

It does sound horrendous. Is it worth hanging in there for a little longer? Hopefully, the house will be reallocated soon and you could end up with lovely neighbours next time. Also, once new people have moved in, the original family will have no excuse to keep returning. I'd also guess they're the sort that have to have a vendetta on the go, so chances are they'll have fallen out with their new neighbours (poor sods) within a few weeks and will be too wrapped up with that to target you any longer.


If after that they continue to harass you, you may have to consider relocating if it is feasible. At least with new neighbours in situ it'll be easier to sell than it would have been prior to them moving down the road.

ska_lover

I can empathise.

Until I knew someone in a similar situation recently - seeing how the police do not come out (when there is violence involved) and how housing associations seem powerless.

Hopefully this will all resolve soon. I think there is light at the end of the tunnel. They are going to be gone soon, just persist and it will all be over soon

onwards&upwards

Twolittlebears wrote: »

Yes I am in a 3 bedroom house but I own my home. It's not HA.


(Sorry I can't quote when replying from my mobile, it's not working when I press quote)

Wow, so definitely move!

I assumed you were in HA accommodation as why else would you still be there putting up with this!

Mojisola

onwards&upwards wrote: »

Wow, so definitely move!

I assumed you were in HA accommodation as why else would you still be there putting up with this!

Who is going to buy a house next door to these neighbours?

onwards&upwards

Mojisola wrote: »

Who is going to buy a house next door to these neighbours?

They don’t live there anymore.

The problem is they know where the OP lives.

Twolittlebears

onwards&upwards wrote: »

Wow, so definitely move!

I assumed you were in HA accommodation as why else would you still be there putting up with this!

This is my family home which I have lived in for 21 years. I own it, not HA. I am not a one for bothering with neighbours, just speak in passing. However living on the gable end, directly next door to this family, they were the only ones I got to know with living so close and being in our gardens at the same time. We never went around each others houses but did get on a lot of the time although I knew what this family were like. I spoke to them only to keep the peace but they would randomly turn.

As I stated in my OP, these family would randomly turn on me. Whenever they got stopped by police they would accuse me of reporting them. I was completely innocent but they harassed me because I am an easy target for them, being close and on my own. They love to accuse people with no proof and cause a big argument. They are always fighting amongst themselves as they are very abusive people. They are not people you can reason with. They are very abusive and threatening. I can't even have my young family members around my home because of the language that comes from their mouths, in front of their own kids too.

This is a lovely quiet estate where I live, I have never had any problems apart from the family next door. I am settled here so I wouldn't want to move. Although I would certainly be looking into moving had they not moved 2 weeks ago as I could not put up with this harassment any longer. Once they have handed the keys back in two weeks they won't have any reason to come near my home.

The problem is from now until 2 weeks when they are gone for good. I can't get anything done in my garden or sit outside as they just arrive in groups and start being abusive and threatening trying to get a reaction from me. Everyone tells me to ignore but it doesn't matter if I ignore or stand up for myself, these people won't drop it. They won't let bygones be bygones, they have to keep fighting and have the last word to feel in control. They clearly get a kick out of being bullies.

I don't understand why the police are allowing this harassment. I have logged many threats over the past 8 weeks and then the recent assault. It isn't getting nipped in the bud so is spiralling out of control. The more the police just sit back the more these people are fighting as they are getting away with it. It seems because the wife/mother was poorly (now passed away) that the police won't bother them because of this. So they are allowed to get away with it just because of that. It is totally wrong.

onwards&upwards

You don’t sound settled, you sound like there are people making your life a misery who aren’t going to stop as long as they know where you are but who might be smart enough to never get caught or stopped.

Just because you’be lived somewhere a long t8me doesn’t mean you have to stay.

It’s up to you, but i’d be getting estate agents round as soon as they were no longer my neighbours, but no for sale sign for them to spot of course!