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In a pickle over splitting assets!!!
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To clarify. This is no joke and anyone who finds making a mockery out of this post should be ashamed! He's a decent man that has done nothing wrong. This website was highly recommended to us and we were told it was full of decent people who would probably be able to help. Thank you to those of you who are actually trying to help!
He pays 180 per month and that's through the CSA by their calculations. He pays for all their clothes, shoes and anything else they need. She has them when it suits her and they're with their grandma the rest of the time
She earns twice as much as him and has already been approved for the mortgage... She decided now she doesn't want to... No other reason. He enquired about buying her out but doesn't earn enough to get a mortgage. He'd happily have full custody of the boys. They appear to be an inconvenience to her, but she won't let him have them full time because that's what HE wants, so she's being as awkward as she can. This is the first time he's been well enough to start the fight full on, but through bad legal advice and wasted money he's at a loss as to where he stands legally and doesn't know which way to turn.
His solicitor has asked for £1000 up front to start the ball rolling for court, but can't seem to give him a straight answer on anything!
And for what it's worth.... She's pure evil!0 -
To clarify. This is no joke and anyone who finds making a mockery out of this post should be ashamed! He's a decent man that has done nothing wrong. This website was highly recommended to us and we were told it was full of decent people who would probably be able to help. Thank you to those of you who are actually trying to help!
He pays 180 per month and that's through the CSA by their calculations. He pays for all their clothes, shoes and anything else they need. She has them when it suits her and they're with their grandma the rest of the time
She earns twice as much as him and has already been approved for the mortgage... She decided now she doesn't want to... No other reason. He enquired about buying her out but doesn't earn enough to get a mortgage. He'd happily have full custody of the boys. They appear to be an inconvenience to her, but she won't let him have them full time because that's what HE wants, so she's being as awkward as she can. This is the first time he's been well enough to start the fight full on, but through bad legal advice and wasted money he's at a loss as to where he stands legally and doesn't know which way to turn.
His solicitor has asked for £1000 up front to start the ball rolling for court, but can't seem to give him a straight answer on anything!
And for what it's worth.... She's pure evil!
It's not up to the readers to help, they can offer advice and what the Op /friend wants to take from it is up to them.
As a constructive criticism, you are quick to point out prices for this n that, the solicitor cannot work for free, they probably have bills to pay and a family to support too, yeah if you want us all to say she is pure evil fine, if they got together and had a couple of children then something must have been fine in the beginning, if she has decided to stray then whilst not good, he must take some of the blame for that.
Moving out when he doesn't have to is a bad decision he has made.0 -
To clarify. This is no joke and anyone who finds making a mockery out of this post should be ashamed! He's a decent man that has done nothing wrong. This website was highly recommended to us and we were told it was full of decent people who would probably be able to help. Thank you to those of you who are actually trying to help!
He pays 180 per month and that's through the CSA by their calculations. He pays for all their clothes, shoes and anything else they need. She has them when it suits her and they're with their grandma the rest of the time
She earns twice as much as him and has already been approved for the mortgage... She decided now she doesn't want to... No other reason. He enquired about buying her out but doesn't earn enough to get a mortgage. He'd happily have full custody of the boys. They appear to be an inconvenience to her, but she won't let him have them full time because that's what HE wants, so she's being as awkward as she can. This is the first time he's been well enough to start the fight full on, but through bad legal advice and wasted money he's at a loss as to where he stands legally and doesn't know which way to turn.
His solicitor has asked for £1000 up front to start the ball rolling for court, but can't seem to give him a straight answer on anything!
And for what it's worth.... She's pure evil!
Has he considered paying for her new partner's day to day expenses.
Also, let your friend know there are more than one solicitor in the country.0 -
Yes... Many thanks for pointing out the obvious... Where would we be without you!!! Seriously... No one had even noticed what a disasterous mess this all is, so thank you from the bottom of our hearts 🙄0
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Yes... Many thanks for pointing out the obvious... Where would we be without you!!! Seriously... No one had even noticed what a disasterous mess this all is, so thank you from the bottom of our hearts 🙄
They probably did but didn't want to say, great friends, it's always somebody else's fault when things go wrong in life.0 -
It's not up to the readers to help, they can offer advice and what the Op /friend wants to take from it is up to them.
As a constructive criticism, you are quick to point out prices for this n that, the solicitor cannot work for free, they probably have bills to pay and a family to support too, yeah if you want us all to say she is pure evil fine, if they got together and had a couple of children then something must have been fine in the beginning, if she has decided to stray then whilst not good, he must take some of the blame for that.
Moving out when he doesn't have to is a bad decision he has made.
"If she has decided to stray he must take some of the blame for that" what a load of rubbish, if I decide tonight out of the blue I'm going to go sleep with another woman should my partner also take some of the blame for that ?.
Talk about victim blaming0 -
"If she has decided to stray he must take some of the blame for that" what a load of rubbish, if I decide tonight out of the blue I'm going to go sleep with another woman should my partner also take some of the blame for that ?.
Talk about victim blaming
Your partner sweets you enough not to stray in whatever way that maybe . Obviously him paying for this n that with numbers to quote isn't enough for her
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In this situation I'd be moving back in!
Then say he'll move back out once she buys him out or the house is sold.Should've = Should HAVE (not 'of')
Would've = Would HAVE (not 'of')
No, I am not perfect, but yes I do judge people on their use of basic English language. If you didn't know the above, then learn it! (If English is your second language, then you are forgiven!)0 -
To clarify. This is no joke and anyone who finds making a mockery out of this post should be ashamed! He's a decent man that has done nothing wrong.
You're mixing up being not to blame with doing nothing wrong. In my view, he's done a lot of things since the breakup wrong.This is a system account and does not represent a real person. To contact the Forum Team email forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com0
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