laws on keeping a baby when your children have been adopted

moneysaver12

i don't have a link to a social worker and iam wary of them, i didn't know that they could do this, how long does it take

misty

From what you say your life seems to be moving in the right direction. Well done on not self harming. Have you seen a councellor for this? If you have, could they support your statements? or at least show that you have maintained contact with them. If you haven't seen a councellor, could you ask your doctor for a referral? that way, you get some additional help and also by the time you are ready to try for a baby you will be able to show that you have sought and kept help.Good luck.

moneysaver12

i saw a councellor for a year, i took went to a group for low self esteem and another group, i had cbt thearpy for year which i paid for then four sessions on the nhs, i have gone back to college now in my second year and got myself out of the house i used to live in two years ago where i there was the neighbours from hell and now live in a nice house in a nice area. I hope to go to uni in two years to train to be a primary teacher. I have done voluntary work as well.

Savvy_Sue

It does sound as if your life has changed immeasurably. I believe that if you have had children removed then there would automatically be an assessment of your situation before you have another child, but that doesn't mean the child will automatically be taken away. If you have your GP's support, that's a good thing. try not to be distrustful of social services, they are not perfect but their life is a lot easier if they DON'T take the child away so this is not their automatic response!

Bykerlass

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

It does sound as if your life has changed immeasurably. I believe that if you have had children removed then there would automatically be an assessment of your situation before you have another child, but that doesn't mean the child will automatically be taken away. If you have your GP's support, that's a good thing. try not to be distrustful of social services, they are not perfect but their life is a lot easier if they DON'T

I totally agree, You do seem to be making positve changes in your life, which you should be congratulated on.
I too believe that an automatic assessment would take place of your present circumstances, health and ability to care for the child, but as previously said you have various agencies supporting you. Social workers don't remove children without just cause, they must have believed the children were at risk of significant harm. Don't be too distrustful of all social workers, they are not out to remove children without reason, indeed their job is made alot easier if they don't.

Good luck

Gale_10

Well done on stopping self-harming. Its a hard thing to stop doing, I know. (sorry my pc keeps going into italics).

My dad died when I was six and I have always missed him, my mum has never spoken much about him, every bit of information that she does give is very precious to me. So I think its really great that you are communicating with your children in any way you can, its good to know that they are going to have answers to the questions that they inevitably will have. If it were me I would keep lots of things for them, a box of photos and tickets and everything you can think of that will help them understand.

You are a brave person, and you are really doing well. Your children will be proud of you when they are able to get to know you personally. I hope all goes well with your new baby too.

All the best,

Gale

Becles

I can't answer the question, but read the posts you made.

I just wanted to admire you for having the courage to tackle all your problems and sort your life out and get back on track. It must take some guts to do that!

I'm sure your children will be thrilled with life story information that you can make for them to have later.

I hope all goes well with the new baby.

Carmina_Piranha_3

hi - well done on not self harming :T

i don't know if there are any guidelines regarding this but i do have a relative whose children were taken away. two of them were adopted. she was allowed to keep her final baby because her circumstances had changed and she had sorted out her life and got a good support network around her.

best wishes, and congratulations on your engagement

bestpud

Good on you for making such positive changes, especially with the self-harm. What you have achieved is no mean feat.

I don't know the rules and regs but just to say I know of a woman who had her first four children taken into care - three together and then the fourth as soon as it was born. But she was with the same partner and had not tackled the personal issues she had.

She has since gone on to have two more children and both are (or were last time I saw her - earlier this year) still with her. The difference is she has had councelling for her personal difficulties and is in a new and stable relationship.

So it does not necessarily follow that ss will try and take any new babies you have. Plus, all the above happened prior to the changes in adoption regs mentioned above! I'd say, going on what you have said here that you have a good chance of proving any have left the previous issues well behind.

Wishing you the best of luck for the future,

Bestpud

Spendless

You might be interested to watch Tonight with Trevor MacDonald on ITV1 tomorrow at 8pm, as it is about a woman who has self-harmed and has left the country as she is pregnant and worried her baby will be taken away. I read the article today (don't know how relevant it will be to your own situation). You could also ask your solicitor what is the likely scenario if you become pg before the 3 years time-span he has recommended.