laws on keeping a baby when your children have been adopted

moneysaver12

does anyone know where i can get information reguading the laws do to with having a baby and been able to keep the baby when your children have been adopted a few years ago, i have looked on the net and can't find what iam looking for

dmg24

Do you mean that the other children were forcibly adopted, or you chose to give them up?

looby-loo_2

My aunt and uncle adoped two baby boys, two years apart, a few years ago because they could not have any children. Five years later she had a surprise baby - everone was happy for them, I don't think at the time there was any talk of handing the adopted babies back. They loved their new sister.

Of course the rules might have changed now

Bykerlass

moneysaver12 wrote: »

does anyone know where i can get information reguading the laws do to with having a baby and been able to keep the baby when your children have been adopted a few years ago, i have looked on the net and can't find what iam looking for

I would guess it depends on the circumstances surrounding the adoption.

catz1ct

Some relatives of mine adopted 2 twin boys because they couldn't have children and then the wife got pregnant lol..... don't think there was any talk of "handing them back"? :S

misty

I don't think the OP was asking if they would have to give adoptedbet children back if they conceived a child naturally. I read it as though they had given children up for adoption or had children removed from them and adopted and was now expecting again. I imagine whether it was the former or latter would seriously alter the outcome and answer. I imagine the circumstances now would be taken into account unless there was a reason as to why any subsequent child would automatically be adopted. Were you given no information at the time of the original adoptions? I guess social services and a solicitor would be your best

misty

On second thoughts I'm guessing the children were taken from you rather than given up? I guess fewer people put up children for adoption now there is less stigma attached to be a single parent and from what you say it was one adoption rather than two seperte occasions? I imagine the main issue would be the circumstances surrounding the adoption and if and how much this has changed and how it would effect a new baby.

moneysaver12

i had my children taken from me which broke my heart and i didn't do anythign wrong to them, it was the circumstances at the time ie their dad etc without going into too much detail. I love my children with all my heart. I do take responeablity for the situation. I do have indirect contact with letters and cards. me and my fiance are getting married in less that two years and we would like to have a baby together, my situation is much different and much better to how it was four and a half years ago, i have spoken to my doctor who says it won't be a problem me keeping a baby, my health is much better now. The solictor said wait three years before having another one and in that time everything had to be ok. Social services told me nothing, they didn't even give me counselling like they said, they basicly didn't want to know once the order was given. I have to chase them up with regaurds to getting letters from the adoptive parents and its not the adoptive parents who are casusing the delay as they do put the month on the letter when it was wrote its social services not sending them out, the adoptive parents are doing a great job and love my children to bits. The social workers were meant to do life story work with me for the children for when they are older, which is good for my children. But social services didn't bother, they told me that they had taken picture of the hospital where they where born and they got the wrong hospital for my daughter as she was born at a different one to my sons. I don't thing that a picture of the hospital is good enough for my children, so i am doing the life story work on my own, copying pictures for my children and doing a letter for when they are older.

misty

"i have spoken to my doctor who says it won't be a problem me keeping a baby, my health is much better now. The solictor said wait three years before having another one and in that time everything had to be ok. Social services told me nothing,"

I don't want to pry - so I'm not sure how relevant those things are - does your doctor mean you would be physically able to have a child, you would be mentally able to cope with a baby or that you have been drug free for several years? Did the solicitor say why he said 3 years? and what dis he mean by everything had to be ok? no contact with ex etc. Is this his/her opinion or is there some documentation to support this time scale? I would aim to get clarification.

If your circumstances have changed and this can be proven - and it has been maintained - I imagine - it won't automatically mean you would lose any subsequent child but I would think it would be a case of definintely having to prove that circumsatnces had changed and this was a permanent change that could be substantiated.

moneysaver12

the doctor said that my mental health is much better and they are now talking about reducing my medication when i go next month i will find out. I was told by the solictor to wait three years and in this time i needed not to have self harmed as i have a history of this. I have not self harmed now for a year and half and never will do it again. I don't have any contact with my ex i know when my kids where in care this was used against me even thou we were split up and i have never had anything to do with him since the court case finished and even before that. I think that tomorrow i will try and get in touch with the solictor and speak to her and see what they say

fsdss

i dont know if this helps you but the law on adoption, changed a couple of years ago. for those who adopted a child after January 2005, birth parent has a lot more input into the adoption and contact clause which is bound by a court order. i know this doesn't help you with your other children.

do you (or did) have a link social worker? i would ask her/ him to do an assessment of your change of lifestyle, to indicate to her that you are now responsible to consider having a baby. fortunately you have your doctor on your side at the moment.

its a great idea that you are doing your own life story book for the children, it'll make a huge difference to them when they get to see it

good luck.