Giving up/ Cutting Down Alcohol Thread Part 16

Honey_Bear

loveasale wrote: »

Thank you for the kind words , I was a little upset by the slightly negative reaction by a poster who doesn’t ‘know’ me !
I am after all only human , saying what I found the meeting to be ( without being disloyal to AA and being a big mouth) I’ve said it’s not for me , but some people just won’t let it lay !

Love a Sale, I saw those comments and read each of them several times. I think they were meant as helpful, but like you I saw something really quite negative in them and that was why I posted in the way I did. It's easy for people to forget just how fragile we are at the point of admitting we need to get a grip on our relationship with alcohol, and it's one of the reasons I avoided people who had stopped long ago when I first stopped. The only people I needed were people who were doing something positive RIGHT NOW to deal with feeling uncomfortable around booze, because they understood something I needed to express.

Keep posting here. We're all here for you, if you want AA it's there for you and if you don't, just avoid it.

The one thing none of us needs is someone telling us we've got problems! It's personal, intrusive and rude. My relationship with alcohol had absolutely nothing to do with needing 'healing' by third parties, and I doubt yours does either.

Hang on in there!

31/31 please, Shaggy.

cathybird

Annual challenge 2019

= 50 days AF

= 100 days AF

= 150 days AF

= 200 days AF
= 250 days AF

= 300 days AF

= 365 days AF

= Target reached

= Target beaten


Totals - end September


Arkers 195/TF
Arsenalbarnie 105/100
Barny1979 237/266
cathybird 258/260
Honey Bear 304/365
loveasale 163/183
maggiem 124/183
Maman 141/TF
marahouti 159/150
Pollyanna 134/183
PriceySOS 200/TF
rosy10 204/300
Shaggy 169/250
SukeyBoo 142/150
Wanna Bee Free 75/150

:jALL WELCOME TO JOIN!!:j

cathybird

Obviously people are still updating today and also do let me know if I've made a mistake Hey and well done arsenalbarnie and marahouti for reaching your annual targets already!! :T:T:T:T:A:A Some others are close too Go us!!! :j:j

marahouti

Thank you Cathybird for keeping score for us. Not going to change my target and I know 200 is unrealistic but I want to see how close I can get to that number .

cathybird

marahouti, 200 isn't unrealistic for you at all, you need 21 for November and again for December. It's completely doable.

Arkers

Good afternoon everyone,
25 please Shaggy
RADIOTHERAPY DONE!!!!!
It has been an exceptionally hard month with ongoing treatment and the loss of our lovely dog. I can't wait for a new month to start. Thanks to all of you for your thoughts and kind words over the last six months.

Arkers x

maman

Arkers wrote: »

RADIOTHERAPY DONE!!!!!

Brilliant news Arkers. Delighted for you.:T

Honey_Bear wrote: »

Love a Sale, I saw those comments and read each of them several times. I think they were meant as helpful, but like you I saw something really quite negative in them and that was why I posted in the way I did

It took me back to some of the posters from way back when I joined the thread (one of whom I still have on ignore). There's something about some people who give up that they're convinced that everyone who has an issue with alcohol is an addict and aren't satisfied until they can force you to admit it. If you won't then your problem is denial (insert rolls eyes smiley). I joined the thread to cut down because I knew that I'd got into a lifestyle of drinking too often. I enjoyed it but it was expensive, calorie laden (especially the crisps and cheese that often went with it:o) and bad for my health. So I cut down, that's all I've ever wanted to do. That doesn't mean I don't respect and admire those who choose to give up. Th thread is a much more tolerant place now. :A

No drinking today. Calling October on 17/10 AFDs please Shaggy and thanks for all your help.:T

cathybird

That's great news Arkers - you have been through the mill, that's for sure - here's hoping November and December are much kinder and more fun! xx

maggiem

Well I'm not going to make my annual target but I guess I knew that following poor scores in August and October. Thank you Cathybird for keeping the total, much appreciated.

I'd like to try for 20 for November please. Need to get back on the wagon both food and alcohol wise. I haven't drank to excess recently but every night is creeping back and that's got to be unhealthy.

loveasale

That’s exactly it mamam , I just felt my drinking is a bit too easy ,, and I was intrigued about AA ,,, nothing more , nothing less,
I love my kids , enjoy my job ,,,, does that make me a mad addict ?
No !
Thank you all , I hope we hear no more from the real person with a problem !
Thanks shaggy and Cathy for scores x