Divorce and pensions sharing

lisyloo

blues wrote: »

The pension will not solve your problems though, as you won't be able to access the money until you're at least 55.

It depends on what is agreed.
He is 61 so can access his tax free lump sum now.
They could agree on something voluntarily e.g. he pays her from lump sum. I’m not sure how that helps long term but I’m saying he does have acces and they could theoretically come to an agreement.
She can’t unilaterally force that though.

It also depends how much you value his friendship and current help, as once you go for his pension, I'm sure you will lose this.

How can she go for it NOW (from what we know).
You can’t just demand a divorce because you feel like it, there are specific grounds and you don’t need to be a solicitor or pay money to find out what they are,
There is a recent case here where the Supreme Court has ruled that merely being unhappy does not warrant getting a divorce

https://www.theguardian.com/law/2018/jul/25/supreme-court-rules-unhappy-marriage-not-grounds-for-divorce-tini-hugh-owens

Jessica._2

Thank you Lissloo

I met my husband to be in 2001 and split in 2016

Was it fair that I brought home £1400 a month and my husband £3500 a month. Our rent was £980 a month and I had to pay half. I also had to pay half for each holiday I went on.
In 2012 I was so sick that I ended up taking high dose morphine in order to work. I had the rent to pay, shopping to buy.
It’s sad when people judge me. My partner was always away playing golf, leaving me days on my own.
Anyway I only wanted some advice on what I should do. Thank you to those that helped me. Xxx

philbo2

Jessica. wrote: »

Thank you Lissloo

I met my husband to be in 2001 and split in 2016

Was it fair that I brought home £1400 a month and my husband £3500 a month. Our rent was £980 a month and I had to pay half. I also had to pay half for each holiday I went on.
In 2012 I was so sick that I ended up taking high dose morphine in order to work. I had the rent to pay, shopping to buy.
It’s sad when people judge me. My partner was always away playing golf, leaving me days on my own.
Anyway I only wanted some advice on what I should do. Thank you to those that helped me. Xxx

Well you could have objected to paying half at the time.

username12345678

I despair.

AdeleLisa

I could of not paid the half but I wanted peace in my life not arguments! I wanted my marriage to work and would of done anything!
Is it really that shocking for wanting a quiet life

philbo2

Are you posting from multiple accounts?

undetterred

Who's to say he's not already accessed the pot?

username12345678

undetterred wrote: »

Who's to say he's not already accessed the pot?

I hope he reads the mse forums and has recognised his ex in these posts...and takes the appropriate actions to protect himself.