Job advice

samtheman112

polgara wrote: »

FGS do we have to do this again? Any long term poster will recognise the futility of this thread.

dont be so mean please

Sncjw

Of course your volunteering will make a difference it shows you have developed skills

samtheman112

Sncjw wrote: »

Of course your volunteering will make a difference it shows you have developed skills

wow i didn't know that

jobbingmusician

Well, it does sound is if you have made some progress, Sam. One of the best thing is that you have thought about working for MacDonalds - in the past you were quite rude about people who worked there. It's really good that you have grown as a person and considered working there.

You didn't really explain why you missed your interviews, though. Would it be helpful if you explained more about that so that we can think about how to avoid something like that happening again?

Also, although I have liked a lot of your attitude, I didn't like this, and I think quite a lot of women would feel the same.

samtheman112 wrote: »

But how do i put effort into finding a girlfriend. I can't just go up to a girl right now and say hi babe nice weather ain't it.

And I am happy JCS1 I just want to be even happier and find someone who loves me, i want to be the person getting married, I want to be the person who wants to watch a movie or tv show with me, I want to be the person who wants to sleep next to me

No woman that I know would appreciate a man coming up to them and calling them 'babe'. I'd feel like slapping someone's face if a stranger addressed me like that! {But I wouldn't do that, obviously. And I wouldn't talk to them, either.)

I'd far prefer it if someone came up and said 'I wanted to talk to you because you look like a nice person to talk to and I don't know many people here. Are you happy to chat for while? I've really been enjoying this weather' (IF you want to talk about the weather. You might want something more topical, like 'the food here's good, isn't it?' or 'did you enjoy the show' or relating to what ever venue you are in.) And then, if the woman makes an excuse, like 'sorry but I can't chat because I'm with friends', you don't sound upset, but simply say 'well, it was nice meeting you anyway. Maybe we'll bump into each other again around the place' and leave. Honestly, if you behave like this, reports that you are a nice person are likely to get around, and women will start talking to you, without you having to talk to them!

samtheman112

That thing i said about McDonalds/fast food workers were bang out of order. They have to put up with alot actually, during busy periods as well. I go in places like that to have food and they are always working really hard.

suki1964

polgara wrote: »

FGS do we have to do this again? Any long term poster will recognise the futility of this thread.

Regardless of the fact that the rules of the site say "be nice or get a red card", some people need to go through the rigmarole quite a few times before they make the next step

The OP could be the biggest WUM around, but he may also be someone who is really struggling with the complexities of life

Neither you nor or I know, so its best to be polite and offer advice, or say nothing and pass by the thread

slashlover

samtheman112 wrote: »

No I haven't. I didn't think that would make a difference

Depending on the volunteering it could show working as part of a team, working alone, working with the public, timekeeping, being reliable, etc. It's also another reference for you.

samtheman112

slashlover wrote: »

Depending on the volunteering it could show working as part of a team, working alone, working with the public, timekeeping, being reliable, etc. It's also another reference for you.

I have done all four. I never thought about it as something to put on my CV though i must admit

slashlover

samtheman112 wrote: »

I have done all four. I never thought about it as something to put on my CV though i must admit

It shows skills you have learned, even if you're not being paid. Anything related to the jobs you are applying for - if you've done cash handling, been trained on health and safety, been in a position of trust, trained someone else, anything which might be suitable. Even with your college - time management to complete assignments, structured writing, computer skills, problem solving, communication skills, critical thinking etc. Take some time to think about what an employer might be looking for and what you have done which could fit into that.

Google transferable skills and see what applies to you.

Think of it this way, if you were employing someone which CV would look better? An empty one or one which shows transferable skills?

samtheman112

thank you for the advice.