Getting a Child integrated into Nursery

Schoolworker

Both my kids went to nursery at aged 9mths for 3 full days. Both were crying and used to get to get the staff to distract them whilst I went. It did pass after the year I think but many times I was in tears in the car going to work as they were crying when one day I nipped out and no sign of mum so they stopped crying. They certainly know is to play you and they loved being at nursery all day.

What I would say that it does pass and things should settle down but there will be plenty of times when child gets sick and you have to leave work to get them and they can't return until after 24hrs afterwards -its the rules. I remember in work in teas cause my son was constantly getting ear infections for the whole month of December when he turned one but after that he was most well except for a few illnesses later on but it was a trying time.

It will work if you believe it's a good nursery and you can get pass the first hurdle it will see them good for heading to school later on. It's also amazing how they will eat certain foods at nursery but not for you as other kids are sitting round the table eating. Good luck

Comms69

onwards&upwards wrote: »

Lol, should have guessed!

And what does that mean?

ThinkPink

You have to do what is right for you and your family.

For some that is one parent staying at home whilst the other works, for others it is both working full time. For our family it is my husband working full time and I work part time (currently 3 days a week, going up to four in April, and our little one is 2 and half). There is no one definite way that works for every single family.

Don't feel guilty or judged, feel proud you are doing what suits your family most

ognum

^^^^^^^^^This^^^^^

Comms69

ThinkPink wrote: »

You have to do what is right for you and your family.

For some that is one parent staying at home whilst the other works, for others it is both working full time. For our family it is my husband working full time and I work part time (currently 3 days a week, going up to four in April, and our little one is 2 and half). There is no one definite way that works for every single family.

Don't feel guilty or judged, feel proud you are doing what suits your family most

Totally agree, each situation is a negotiation between a couple/family

sooty&sweep

Hi

Both my children went to nursery and both enjoyed it.

They both went through phases of crying when I dropped them off and I remember how awful that made me feel. However I'd peep round the door or through the window a few minutes later and they'd always be playing happily.

I also remember at the other end of the day when I went to pick them up they didn't want to go home & I had to threaten to leave without them to get them out the door !

They got to do things that I would never have done with them at home.

They also went to after school club. If I picked them up at the last minute they complained I didn't pick them up early and when I picked them up early they complained I was too early & they were busy ! Regularly ended up hanging round for 15 minutes whilst they finished whatever they were doing.

Whether a child attends nursery is entirely up to the parents but personally I don't believe either of mine have suffered in anyway as a result!

Jen

Bluebell1000

Going back to the original post, about getting a child feeling settled, it does take a bit of time. However do trust your instincts and try to listen to your child too, and see how they are reacting. I went back to work when both my children were quite small, and we used a nursery for both for a short while. However it was clear that it just wasn't working for them in that particular place (I think we gave it about a month), and we switched to a childminder instead. We could see a difference immediately in how happy they were to go there, and there were no tears. Some places just don't work for some children - it doesn't make them a bad provider or anything, just individual preferences - so do try it, but if it doesn't work out then you can always try other places.

Marvel1

Pretty sure I don't work for luxury, i have to keep a roof over my head, pay council tax (lovely luxury).

heartbreak_star

I went to nursery school from the age of about 2. I believe I cried once, and my mum told me I was being ridiculous haha!

In all honesty I remember loving nursery, and it helped with confidence that I went into "proper" school with a basic grasp of reading...

HBS x

Comms69

Marvel1 wrote: »

Pretty sure I don't work for luxury, i have to keep a roof over my head, pay council tax (lovely luxury).

That's about financial planning when deciding to have a child