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Potential lodger ?
FreeBear
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Autumn of 2017, I had an 18yo girl staying with me - Three months pregnant, boyfriend floating in and out. In the two months she stayed here, the BF did quite a bit of damage to the room, and she was very emotionally unstable. Ended up with her having a "meltdown", rehomed in a women's refuge, leaving me to repair the damage.
The baby was born some four months later and social services placed her in to a supported living hostel. The baby was subsequently taken away and placed in care.
Over the weekend, I had a string of emails from this young girl asking if "her old room" was vacant and could she move back. Imploring me to provide a safe and stable environment for both herself and a new BF with the long term aim of getting the baby back.....
I haven't given her an answer yet.
The baby was born some four months later and social services placed her in to a supported living hostel. The baby was subsequently taken away and placed in care.
Over the weekend, I had a string of emails from this young girl asking if "her old room" was vacant and could she move back. Imploring me to provide a safe and stable environment for both herself and a new BF with the long term aim of getting the baby back.....
I haven't given her an answer yet.
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Erik Aronesty, 2014
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Erik Aronesty, 2014
Treasure the moments that you have. Savour them for as long as you can for they will never come back again.
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Sounds like a naightmare in the making.
I take it she was a lodger originally rather than " I had an 18yo girl staying with me".......?0 -
Autumn of 2017, I had an 18yo girl staying with me - Three months pregnant, boyfriend floating in and out. In the two months she stayed here, the BF did quite a bit of damage to the room, and she was very emotionally unstable. Ended up with her having a "meltdown", rehomed in a women's refuge, leaving me to repair the damage.
The baby was born some four months later and social services placed her in to a supported living hostel. The baby was subsequently taken away and placed in care.
Over the weekend, I had a string of emails from this young girl asking if "her old room" was vacant and could she move back. Imploring me to provide a safe and stable environment for both herself and a new BF with the long term aim of getting the baby back.....
I haven't given her an answer yet.
How can you possibly know this level of detail?0 -
Whilst it’s admirable that you are considering it do you really want to go through that again?
More often than not the same cycle will occur with boyfriends etc.
I would be more willing to meet her and gauge if she has changed - grown up and matured etc and then make a decision.0 -
Taking in a single lodger is one thing if you need the extra money the rent will bring in, but taking in a couple, who've been far from ideal in the past & the possibility of a baby being added to the mix at some point too, I'd definitely say no I'm afraid.The bigger the bargain, the better I feel.
I should mention that there's only one of me, don't confuse me with others of the same name.0 -
Please don't. It will destroy you.0
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No chance.0
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History will repeat itself.0
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No one can have ended up with three lodgers in a row who are this unstable I’m going to call troll0
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Check their stats before calling trollallypally26 wrote: »No one can have ended up with three lodgers in a row who are this unstable I’m going to call troll
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Wait, this is the same person as the last lodger thread? No way.0
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