My brother has been gifted a house

Comms69

theartfullodger wrote: »

Wait till they all grow up - perhaps (I hope not, obviously..) some go bad, one becomes a multi-millionaire, the others (now more than 3...) have loads of kids, some with special needs: Then re-visit how you will divide, if at all.

Me, I told my 3 kids they should assume they'll get nothing as I am drinking all the assets: (serious point..) I wanted them all to be self-sufficient, run and pay for their own lives - which they largely have, and are all hard-working decent people.

Anyway, who knows with government claw-backs for care-home fees, there might be nothing anyway.

I suspect i'll do similar. Though mine are threatening to live in the home forever and ever at the mo!

theartfullodger

Comms69 wrote: »

I suspect i'll do similar. Though mine are threatening to live in the home forever and ever at the mo!

Move, but don't tell 'em your new address!

getmore4less

Lifeischoas wrote: »

So this is going to be long, bare with me.
My paternal grandmother died 8 years ago leaving me and my eldest brother 10000 in trust (she was very old fashioned and we were the only grandchildren born in wedlock), she also left all grandchildren including my 3 half siblings and my brother and I 1000 each.
Fast forward 8 years and I have just found out that my grandmother on her deathbed (cancer) gifted my younger half brother a farm, with the reasoning being that she didn't want my mother to get hold of any money/land if me or my brother had been gifted the farm.
Now apart from the point that I feel incredibly betrayed by this being kept a secret and confused at why or even how my mum would of gotten hold of the land (she divorced my farther and never went after any money 17 years before this 'gift') I can't help but feel like I should try somehow to get this farm put into all 5 siblings names.
Without going into more details it's my understanding that she only gifted it this way because my step mother planted the seed that me and my brother would give any of this to my mum.
By the way I have never fallen out with my step mum (I thought we had a good relationship till this bombshell) and I got along well with my gran. No body knows that I have found out and the only people currently in on the secret of this gift are my dad, step mum and younger brother. All of the rest of her estate was split between my step mum and dad.
Should I look into legal advice or do I have no hope?

How was that done?

There are some rules surrounding deathbed gifts that need to be fulfilled for it to be a valid gift.

one issue is that if it fails as a deathbed gift it falls back into the estate and will be covered by the will.

theartfullodger

Lifeischoas wrote: »

So this is going to be long, bare with me.....

Saucy! This is a family-friendly forum, for one where you can ask others to take their kit off I fear you may have to go elsewhere....

Sibz

Sounds like Granny had her reasons. Sounds like she thought a lot of thought into who gets what.

Not an easy thing trying to second-guess the deceased. Especially when time has passed also.
You have given no indication as to how step-mum comes to get the blame. Every family has a past, and relationships between all individuals within can be complex, only Granny knows the reasons she made decisions and how she perceived anything that happened throughout her life.

If you have a good relationship with your half brother it's prob best to keep it that way.

ReadingTim

Lifeischoas wrote: »

This isn't about us having money etc it's about all siblings being equal.

It's entirely about money - you wouldn't be bothered if it was granny's old teapot would you?

Lifeischoas

I actually would ReadingTim, I've never been after money from anyone but I have 2 younger siblings (12 and 8) who also don't get any share in this and I'm pretty annoyed for them as well as myself and my older brother. I'm deeply hurt by my family more than anything and very angry that no one decided to tell the truth.

Cakeguts

Comms69 wrote: »

I suspect i'll do similar. Though mine are threatening to live in the home forever and ever at the mo!

Downsize to a house that doesn't have room for them or bedrooms.

Lifeischoas

Sibz thank you for your reply, I think a bit of perspective on the point that I don't know all the facts is what I really needed. I don't want to ruin my relationship with my brother.

Comms69

Lifeischoas wrote: »

I actually would ReadingTim, I've never been after money from anyone but I have 2 younger siblings (12 and 8) who also don't get any share in this and I'm pretty annoyed for them as well as myself and my older brother. I'm deeply hurt by my family more than anything and very angry that no one decided to tell the truth.

Get some help; seriously. It's not healthy to get upset because people you are related to have their own lives.