Please help had council tax bailiff at the door

johnroberts07

Im glad i made you feel better, theres always someone worse off than you. At least you have got your children. i havent. I have an 18 month old baby, i saw her once at 9 weeks old and my ex wont let me see her. i sit and cry at night sometimes and look at her pic on my camfone

jojopo000

Sea78 wrote: »

Honey - you've not let ANYONE down and you haven't ruined Christmas at all. Believe me - I have felt exactly the same. Tomorrow, do get on to your hv and explain how you're feeling - I found i was jsut about coping after having my kids but add financial worries to the mix and I was not ok. Your kids adore you for being their fabulous mum and that's all that is important. you can and will sort the money issues, I promise - stay on the board, ring everyone you can tomorrow - including the CAB and further on your MP if necessary! We will be here with you every step of the way and I for one will be def looking out for you too.

Give your kids an extra squeeze in the morning - if your 8 yr old is worried before school, perhaps you could just explain that you are having a little trouble with the council, but that you and OH are sorting it (even if you don't feel like you are at the mo!!) and they needn't worry about it at all. Might help?

Sea xxxxxxxx

Thank you so much for your words and saying you're here for me, you have set me off in tears again.
I hope this can be sorted out tomorrow easily(ish) as dont have the fight in me at the mo as just feel worn out by it all.
My eldest (DS aged 8) will get a massive sqeeze in the morning, OH has already spoken to eldest DH so hopefully that will sort his worries.
I didnt think about calling the mp, which one would I contact? My local one or the one for the area this is all for?
I have the Health Visitor tomorrow morning too so might see if needed if she is able to provide written proof of PND for me.
xx

johnroberts07

jojopo000 wrote: »

Thanks for replying and I cannot believe what they did (was it for the same as me?). Have they apologised? I hope you are feeling better now?

I will try to go to CAB but they are impossible to get to see down here as so many people have problems they need help with.

I have a feeling that the post natal depression is going to win again, not only from all this now but how i have been feeling of late. I know as had it before after my 2 year old.

If you have been treated for post-natal depression, try phoning M.I.N.D they will help you. And they are better than C.A.B

joeblack066

johnroberts07 wrote: »

Im glad i made you feel better, theres always someone worse off than you. At least you have got your children. i havent. I have an 18 month old baby, i saw her once at 9 weeks old and my ex wont let me see her. i sit and cry at night sometimes and look at her pic on my camfone

Just wanted to send you a ***HUG***. I would NEVER have stopped my ex seeing the kids, even tho he wrecked my life when he ran off with my friend. Presuming that you have done everything you can to see your daughter, can I suggest that you write her a letter once a week, and save them all till she's older, so that when the day comes that she comes to find you, she will know that she was always in your mind and in your heart? ***HUGS*** again.

jojopo000

johnroberts07 wrote: »

Im glad i made you feel better, theres always someone worse off than you. At least you have got your children. i havent. I have an 18 month old baby, i saw her once at 9 weeks old and my ex wont let me see her. i sit and cry at night sometimes and look at her pic on my camfone

I have had a awful 2 weeks, first someone hit my car, then I have had major problems with eldest DS Dads girlfriend and now even more probs as turns out she had been bullying my son when his Dad wanst about and I felt useless over that as feel like I havent protected my son properly (even though there was nothing I could of done) and now all this. Is it ever going to end?

I hope your ex lets you see you baby soon, I couldnt imagine not seeing my kids as they are my life. I have always encouraged my eldest DS to have a healthy relationship with his Dad as his not his fault our relainship broke down and I never knew my dad so grew up always wondering. Hopefuly if she will come to you one day.

I know it doesnt help but am sending you massive hugs as no one should not be allowed to see their children.

johnroberts07

I dont know what i have done, i met her started going out with her and i used to clean her house for her and do her washing and take her kids to school. (she had 4 children 14 11 9 and 7) And i used to take them swimming and babysit for her, 2 months after we met she got pregnant. When she was 3 months pregnant she dumped me. I did nothing wrong i think she just used me to get pregnant I feel as though i must be ugly and not good enough

johnroberts07

TRY THAT ALSO I HAVE FOUND OUT IF THE COUNCIL OVERPAY YOU AND ITS THEIR FAULT THE OVERPAYMENT CAN BE WAIVED IF IT WILL CAUSE HARDSHIP

jojopo000

johnroberts07 wrote: »

I dont know what i have done, i met her started going out with her and i used to clean her house for her and do her washing and take her kids to school. (she had 4 children 14 11 9 and 7) And i used to take them swimming and babysit for her, 2 months after we met she got pregnant. When she was 3 months pregnant she dumped me. I did nothing wrong i think she just used me to get pregnant I feel as though i must be ugly and not good enough

Hey, dont ever think that about yourself!! Think of it like this, you cannot be ugly or not good enough otherwise she wouldnt of made a baby with you. You must have lots of good qualities about you otherwise your ex wouldnt of gone anywhere near you.
I am sure that one day your daughter will come and find you and when she does she will be proud that you are her Dad.

angeleyes

just a quick note

if the council have sent the baliffs before going to court i have heard that it because they dont stand much chance of getting it through the courts
for example
the letters havent been issued in the correct time/manner
addressed incorrectly etc..


and they are just trying their luck of selling the debt on in case you pay,..##


just check all your documents that they are to the correct person at the same address and no one else of simliar names they have mixed you up with someone else (one of the main reasons gets thrown out of court)

johnroberts07

jojopo000 wrote: »

Hey, dont ever think that about yourself!! Think of it like this, you cannot be ugly or not good enough otherwise she wouldnt of made a baby with you. You must have lots of good qualities about you otherwise your ex wouldnt of gone anywhere near you.
I am sure that one day your daughter will come and find you and when she does she will be proud that you are her Dad.[/quote She probably wont find out who i am. she hasnt put me on the birth certificate, and she told social security she doesnt know who the father is