help with dummy dependent baby

buxtonrabbitgreen

I have 5 kids and the first 4 didn't have dummies. I didn't like them as somone else said. However the 5th was a right little screamer, and was only home about 3 days before I sent the OH for one. Well I have a picture of her standing in her cot with 2 dummies in her mouth and one in each hand. But she is now 14 and I can assure you she doesn't have one any more.
The reason she had so many was that if she lost one in the night there were planty of stand-byes handy. So she wouldn't have to wake me up.
Eventually at about 2 she just didn't seem to bother if they fell down the side of her cot.

liney

I would only allow the dummy at sleep time, but have you tried removing it from his mouth when he has fallen to sleep after a few minutes? It will get him used to sleeping without it in his mouth early evening instead of at 3am.

If you want rid of it, it will be easier to do it earlier then when you have a toddler begging you for his 'dum dums'. We 'lost' ours when my son was 18 months old, and althoiugh he only ever had it to go to sleep he was most upset for 3 nights. We never gave in, and gave it himback, but the 3 nights were very upsetting. He's 3 and a half now, and if he sees a baby with a dummy, he will say 'i used to have a dummy' and look upset.

miserly_mum

[QUOTE=buxtonrabbitgreen;67989 Well I have a picture of her standing in her cot with 2 dummies in her mouth and one in each hand. But she is now 14 and I can assure you she doesn't have one any more.
The reason she had so many was that if she lost one in the night there were planty of stand-byes handy. So she wouldn't have to wake me up..[/QUOTE]

OMG reading that bit made me laugh out loud.

My oldest three kids had just a year between each of them and for a short while all three had a dummy. More for my sanity than anything :rotfl:

We had them everywhere just incase disaster struck and one of them couldn't find theirs.

For years after every time we moved furniture or a bed we'd find a dummy behind it. Was quite a nice reminder of when they were little.

Also if its any comfort to OP all 6 of my kids had a dummy. No speech problems or crooked teeth as Health Visitors love to tell us will happen.

At 3 months he will need you to slip it back in his mouth when he wakes up but in a few weeks if you have it on a clip on chain attached to his jammies he'll soon learn to find it himself

poppyolivia

Hapless wrote: »

Lisps have nothing to do with dummies. 2 of mine had dummies, 2 didn't, all 4 have lisps. the 2 that didn't weren't thumbsuckers either.
remember, you can sterilise a dummy but not a finger.
No 1 gave hers up at 3 yrs.
No 3 gave his up at 18 months.

All though I want to believe that I don't think dummies help..my son has developed a overbite that I think came from using a dummy...then resulting in his tongue resting on the back of his front teeth when he talks...it is very slight though so hopefully it can be nipped in the bud!


If you don't mind me asking..do your kids need speech therapy because of the lisps? Or does it go away itself?...tried looking on the net but can't seem to see the answers I'm looking for xxxx

I totally know what you are saying though about not having dummies and still lisping.... I know a couple of kids like this....so maybe my wee fella would have lisped anyway and it will sort itself out as he learns to talk more??????

amandada

I'd have given my eye teeth for my 2 to have dummies!
To the OP, please try not to get hung up on the dummy thing (easier said than done I know) but if you have a "sucky" baby, far better a dummy than a thumb

yours,
thumbsucker
age 37 and three quarters!

Dumyat

dummies are much easier to take away than thumbs. when I had my first I was adamant that I wouldnt use one, that lasted about 4 weeks! I was very strict about it though - it was for bedtimes only. Both my kids gave it up around a year with out any fuss.