Kicked out parents home, no idea what to do next

G_M

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

I can't recall the name of the scheme - but there is one whereby a younger single person stays in an unused bedroom in the house of an older person.

The idea being a mutually beneficial relationship of the older person having some company around the home and that younger person does some hours of housework a week in lieu of rent payment.

Don't know if anyone knows the name of the scheme I have in mind?? The articles I've read about it to date showed that it seems to be working quite well all round and the two people concerned often make friends with each other as well.

I've heard positive things about this too, though like any sharing set-up I'm sure itcan end badly too - just depends on the personalities and lifestyles of those involved!


I googled and found


http://www.housingcare.org/service/type-30-homesharing.aspx


https://homeshareuk.org/


http://www.shareandcare.co.uk/


https://www.express.co.uk/finance/personalfinance/584555/Young-people-share-homes-of-the-elderly-in-bid-to-tackle-Britan-s-housing-crisis


I'm not recommendimg any of these as I have no personal experience of them.

TheGardener

Cakeguts wrote: »

You can also do what most other students do as well which is to get a job both of you to pay your way through your courses.

Its Christmas, the OP is homeless due to domestic abuse - and probably pretty cut up about it and you say "get a job" ...grinch or what cakeguts!

OP - sorry to hear about your circumstances - it must be very hard for you. If you are at Uni then the Student Welfare Office is your best bet (but I appreciate its now shut for Christmas - but do they have an emergency contact number? At this time of year there are invariably a handful of student accommodation places empty due to the students who decide at the end of the first semester that Uni is not for them. It might be a temporary thing but worth asking.
Then follow the artfullogers advice.

I hope you have an ok Christmas

Comms69

TheGardener wrote: »

Its Christmas, the OP is homeless due to domestic abuse - and probably pretty cut up about it and you say "get a job" ...grinch or what cakeguts!

OP - sorry to hear about your circumstances - it must be very hard for you. If you are at Uni then the Student Welfare Office is your best bet (but I appreciate its now shut for Christmas - but do they have an emergency contact number? At this time of year there are invariably a handful of student accommodation places empty due to the students who decide at the end of the first semester that Uni is not for them. It might be a temporary thing but worth asking.
Then follow the artfullogers advice.

I hope you have an ok Christmas

Suggesting someone does paid work in order to attain their desired lifestyle?

Where’s the problem?

AnotherJoe

TheGardener wrote: »

Its Christmas, the OP is homeless due to domestic abuse - and probably pretty cut up about it and you say "get a job" ...grinch or what cakeguts!

Seems like solid practical advice to me. There may well be plenty of jobs albeit temporary over Xmas, in pubs and restaurants, and well paid on NYE as well. Perhaps they wont be able to be a student for a while until they get back on their feet.
They dont have a god-given right to be a student but maybe they can have a job and be a student, plenty do and if they are cut loose from parental contribution they will need a job.

moneyistooshorttomention

G_M wrote: »

I've heard positive things about this too, though like any sharing set-up I'm sure itcan end badly too - just depends on the personalities and lifestyles of those involved!


I googled and found


http://www.housingcare.org/service/type-30-homesharing.aspx


https://homeshareuk.org/


http://www.shareandcare.co.uk/


https://www.express.co.uk/finance/personalfinance/584555/Young-people-share-homes-of-the-elderly-in-bid-to-tackle-Britan-s-housing-crisis


I'm not recommendimg any of these as I have no personal experience of them.

Yes - that's the sort of thing I meant. As you say - obviously personalities are going to come into it - so there's an element of luck involved there.

The other thing that might be possible is being a "property guardian" (believe that's the name of it) and people live in what they know is a short-term accommodation set-up (ie that lasts weeks or months - rather than years) safeguarding property on behalf of a firm.

charlotte1994

Tropiuss wrote: »

Not even sure if this is the right place to post this but at this point I’m desperate for any advice.

I came home from a night out and my mother started screaming at me, so I simply left. She has been unable to control her behaviour for maybe 10 years and I’m tired of the way she treats me, so just leaving seemed like the best option. She followed me outside, pulled my hair, dug her nails into me, hit me, screaming at me to either get back inside now or never come back. So I took the latter option. I’ve not had any contact with her since.

I stayed at my brothers house the first two nights, then when she was at work I went round a grabbed all my stuff and took it to my boyfriends parents house. I’ve been here for about 2 weeks. We’re trying to move out, but I have literally no idea how. We:

Are both students and a lot of places are unwilling to rent to students
Don’t have a guarantor because I have no contact with my parents and my boyfriends parents aren’t eligible
Don’t have any landlord references because I’ve only ever lived at home

I have literally no idea how to go about getting a flat. I’m a poor student with no financial help from either of our families so my options are pretty limited. We’ve looked at student accommodation but it’s simply too expensive. Any advice at all would be appreciated, feeling depressed as anything recently

For now I would look at flat sharing sites like spareroom.com ! You might be able to get a place some other students, I'm really sorry you're in this situation ):

Rosemary7391

Comms69 wrote: »

Suggesting someone does paid work in order to attain their desired lifestyle?

Where’s the problem?

It's a realistic long term solution, but bearing in mind student could mean school student, they may struggle a bit with that. Especially at short notice - we don't know how long they're okay to stay with their boyfriend? I suspect OP could do with a bit more support than just the literal steps required to rent a place.



OP I really suggest you follow the advice to report the assault to the police. That should open doors to you regarding support, financial and otherwise I hope. Sorry this has happened to you, but hopefully you'll be able to catch your breath a bit over the holidays with your boyfriend+family then build something better for yourself in the new year you'll get a lot of advice here, but you will have to pick and choose what is practical for you right now! Best of luck with it all

Comms69

Rosemary7391 wrote: »

It's a realistic long term solution, but bearing in mind student could mean school student, they may struggle a bit with that. - yes, but frankly it's the OPs problem to solve. Especially at short notice - we don't know how long they're okay to stay with their boyfriend? - So better start searching asap I suspect OP could do with a bit more support than just the literal steps required to rent a place. - But a public forum cannot provide that kind of support, that's what friends, extended family etc is for



OP I really suggest you follow the advice to report the assault to the police. That should open doors to you regarding support, financial and otherwise I hope. Sorry this has happened to you, but hopefully you'll be able to catch your breath a bit over the holidays with your boyfriend+family then build something better for yourself in the new year you'll get a lot of advice here, but you will have to pick and choose what is practical for you right now! Best of luck with it all

I agree about reporting the assault.


even if it goes no further than that, it's on record

Flossasaurusrex

I'm so sorry to hear.

I got kicked out age 17 by my mentally ill mother so thought I would post given very similar circumstances!

I ended up staying on my sister's sofa for a few weeks and applying for housing benefit at first and lived in a grotty shared house that accepted dss whilst finishing my a levels. I was able to get a part time job at Pizza hut along side my college work to live on.

Horrible, emotionally painful time but I went to uni at 18 and just bought my first house at the age of 27 and doing well. It can get better.

So in full, glad you have a roof over your head right now and think a shared house your best bet.

diggingdude

You need to tell us how old you are. If under 18 report to children's services that you need assistance. They will have to help under the Southwark Judgement. Over 18 report as homeless to housing