Kicked out parents home, no idea what to do next

Tropiuss

Not even sure if this is the right place to post this but at this point I’m desperate for any advice.

I came home from a night out and my mother started screaming at me, so I simply left. She has been unable to control her behaviour for maybe 10 years and I’m tired of the way she treats me, so just leaving seemed like the best option. She followed me outside, pulled my hair, dug her nails into me, hit me, screaming at me to either get back inside now or never come back. So I took the latter option. I’ve not had any contact with her since.

I stayed at my brothers house the first two nights, then when she was at work I went round a grabbed all my stuff and took it to my boyfriends parents house. I’ve been here for about 2 weeks. We’re trying to move out, but I have literally no idea how. We:

Are both students and a lot of places are unwilling to rent to students
Don’t have a guarantor because I have no contact with my parents and my boyfriends parents aren’t eligible
Don’t have any landlord references because I’ve only ever lived at home

I have literally no idea how to go about getting a flat. I’m a poor student with no financial help from either of our families so my options are pretty limited. We’ve looked at student accommodation but it’s simply too expensive. Any advice at all would be appreciated, feeling depressed as anything recently

kinger101

Your college/university may have a welfare officer (perhaps in the Students' Union). I'd start there. They'll know what help you're entitled to, including any hardship funds etc. But I guess they won't be able to help until the new year.

How realistic is it that you could move in with your boyfriend's parents until studies are completed and you could full-time work?

Cakeguts

You can also do what most other students do as well which is to get a job both of you to pay your way through your courses.

Murphybear

You say student accommodation is too expensive? Is private renting a lot cheaper?

chunkytfg

https://www.spareroom.co.uk could be a good place to look for cheaper options than an entire property to rent?

HampshireH

How old are you?

What general area are you in?

What type of education are you in?

What income of any description do you have?

silvercar

What does your father say?

can you stay where you are for longer?

You could go to the council and claim homelessness. Did you report the attack from your mother?

You may have problems with future student finance if you need your mother to complete the parental contribution forms for your loan assessment.

Jane_B

Speak to your student support officer, they should have a good idea of what financial support you might be able to get.
Look into renting spare rooms, a lot cheaper than renting a whole place, and typically don't have the same guarantor issues
Can you get a part time job to help pay for this?
Is it possible to stay with your boyfriends parents for much longer?

moneyistooshorttomention

I can't recall the name of the scheme - but there is one whereby a younger single person stays in an unused bedroom in the house of an older person.

The idea being a mutually beneficial relationship of the older person having some company around the home and that younger person does some hours of housework a week in lieu of rent payment.

Don't know if anyone knows the name of the scheme I have in mind?? The articles I've read about it to date showed that it seems to be working quite well all round and the two people concerned often make friends with each other as well.

Comms69

Tropiuss wrote: »

Not even sure if this is the right place to post this but at this point I’m desperate for any advice.

I came home from a night out and my mother started screaming at me, so I simply left. She has been unable to control her behaviour for maybe 10 years and I’m tired of the way she treats me, so just leaving seemed like the best option. She followed me outside, pulled my hair, dug her nails into me, hit me, screaming at me to either get back inside now or never come back. So I took the latter option. I’ve not had any contact with her since. - You should report this assault, even just to have it on record.

I stayed at my brothers house the first two nights, then when she was at work I went round a grabbed all my stuff and took it to my boyfriends parents house. I’ve been here for about 2 weeks. We’re trying to move out, but I have literally no idea how. We:

Are both students and a lot of places are unwilling to rent to students - Are either of you working? When you say students - Uni with a grant/loan or 6th form?
Don’t have a guarantor because I have no contact with my parents and my boyfriends parents aren’t eligible - you may need to look at shared housing and renting a room - try spareroom.co.uk
Don’t have any landlord references because I’ve only ever lived at home - that's not an issue

I have literally no idea how to go about getting a flat. - I think a flat is beyond your reach tbh I’m a poor student with no financial help from either of our families so my options are pretty limited. - get a job? We’ve looked at student accommodation but it’s simply too expensive. Any advice at all would be appreciated, feeling depressed as anything recently

Job and rent a room

theartfullodger

Go to council housing department. Make a homeless application. (No, not get a list of agents, no, don't go on the council housing waiting list: Make a homeless application).

They should rehouse you under the new Homeless reduction act. For guidance and something to read as you sit, probably for hours, see (Click on homelessness.,)...
https://nhas.org.uk/factsheets

You need a decision IN WRITING. Either OK or a refusal, with reasons why: You or someone else can appeal the decision.

They may house you somewhere you & I wouldn't want to go: A homeless hostel, a homeless B&B or be offered a private rental some way (maybe 200miles..) away.

Sorry, hope Christmas gets better. You can't choose your relatives.