Advice Please: Moving in together (new house) when 1 all ready has a mortgage.

PhilE

Know your not asking for an emotional analysis, but you need to put your children's wishes first. She isn't. Her priority is herself and not your children.

getmore4less

What is she bringing to the table for this joint venture?

if you have kids what are the proposal for splitting costs when she is sharing with 3 others(either full time or part time) etc.

This needs a trial period either at yours or a rental for more than just a few nights.

a good start if not already doing it is she starts to save at least 1/2 of what it would cost to do a house share(less what she currently pays at home)

Mojisola

poadb wrote: »

I have children from a previous relationship.

I now have a new partner, and we're at the point in the relationship of considering living together.

However, new partner will not move in to my current home, due to it being a home I shared with my ex.

Current partner still lives with her parents.

If your partner isn't prepared to compromise for a time, then rethink whether you're ready to set up a joint household.

I can understand that she feels your home was "yours, plural" with your ex but is she really so insecure about your relationship that she won't move in at all? Discuss a few changes that can be made so that she will feel more at home (and will help when you come to sell the place).

She hasn't lived independently and you don't know how the family dynamics are going to work out once she is in the house with your children. Their well-being has to come before your partner's wish for a new house.

If she moves in and all goes well, you can then make plans for a new house - if necessary, put a date on it that the two of you will decide by so that she doesn't feel that she'll get stuck at the current house if she moves in.