Dreading going do-lally

myrnahaz

I agree with home-alone, it's good to act a bit doolally if someone calls. Tell the caller that your son has power of attorney over your finances and that he's just rung you to say that he's on his way home from his boxing club and will be there in about 5 minutes if Mr Prospectiveconman would like to call back.
We had a guy round our place yesterday with a clipboard that had a Sky logo on it, but he was asking me what sky packages I had (if any) - I just acted daft and said I didn't know; he left as soon as he realised I was a misery guts, but I wish I'd been a bit quicker and asked him why, if he was a real sky rep, didn't he already know exactly what I had.

Garnet_Gem

The best way not to be "taken in" as you get older is not to answer the door if you can't see who's there. Give neighbours, family, friends your phone number and ask them to ring and let you know they're going to come and see you. Get a phone that lets you know who's calling as the dubious companies will withhold their number. Don't answer any with-held number calls. If you need work done ask around for a recommendation to choose someone who has done work for a friend and has proved to be honest.
If you're sensible and take these precautions automatically you can get on and enjoy your life.
BTW - these suggestions apply to everyone, not only over 60s.

roy62

Repeating yourself over & over again is a sure sign of old age.

Ted_Hutchinson

margaretclare wrote: »

Ted, I need your advice again on recovering from bone and joint surgery for a woman who hasn't yet reached the menopause - my daughter.

I'll pm you this evening as I've stuff to do today. Low Vitamin D Levels May Worsen Osteoarthritis Of The Knee though is a warning to us all to do something about the fact that average UK vitamin d status is half than needed to absorb calcium. if we want people to live longer healthier lives.
This explains it in simpler terms.
What I can't understand is why people keep repeating that rubbish about toxicity and haven't sufficient grasp of mental arithmetic to work out how much vitamin d the body needs to make sure everything works as nature intended. so ignore the penultimate paragraph.

margaretclare

roy62 wrote: »

Repeating yourself over & over again is a sure sign of old age.

As is making nasty snide underhand comments that one is supposed to guess the meaning of.

If you have something to say, say it out loud. If you disagree, fine. No one agrees with everyone all of the time.

Margaret

Ellidee

I wonder if sometimes older people, especially those living on their own, are more susceptible because theyr'e lonely or bored. This person at their door might be the only human contact they've had in days. Sad but true.

chesky369

And sometimes lose their sense of humour.

babiebeany

I know what you mean about going doolally - I really worry about my mum in this respect and dont think she will able to live alone for many years more.

It's not something which has suddenly happened when she reached 60 though. She has been the same all her life, acts in a nieve way, never really wanted any friends so no social life, sees herself as a victim rather than someone who can make positive changes to her life etc.

I have really tried to help her, by encouraging her to join clubs, take courses, invite neighbours in for a coffee etc. Each time though she makes excuses as to why she shouldn't. She relies on us 3 kids to do everything with or for her which I find extremely sad as she is just so lonely sat in her house all day/night waiting for one of us to call. If only she would/could (I do understand that it is hard to do) do something even just go on the bus to the supermarket alone as it does stop right outside her house.

I am so determined that I will not allow myself to become like this, but just dont know what to do next to help my mum.

givememoney

On a similar theme, some wag on the TV.

He said he was always being negative so decided to have a day saying `Yes` to everything.

The phone rang and person on the other end asked if he was interested in double glazing. He replied `yes`. Salesman got excited and asked if he could make an appointment he said `yes`. Salesman asked how old were the windows he already had, he said 2 years old. Salesman asked are they double glazed? he said `yes` Salesman then suggested that as they were relatively new he was just stringing him along. He said `yes`.

seven-day-weekend

babiebeany wrote: »

I know what you mean about going doolally - I really worry about my mum in this respect and dont think she will able to live alone for many years more.

It's not something which has suddenly happened when she reached 60 though. She has been the same all her life, acts in a nieve way, never really wanted any friends so no social life, sees herself as a victim rather than someone who can make positive changes to her life etc.

I have really tried to help her, by encouraging her to join clubs, take courses, invite neighbours in for a coffee etc. Each time though she makes excuses as to why she shouldn't. She relies on us 3 kids to do everything with or for her which I find extremely sad as she is just so lonely sat in her house all day/night waiting for one of us to call. If only she would/could (I do understand that it is hard to do) do something even just go on the bus to the supermarket alone as it does stop right outside her house.

I am so determined that I will not allow myself to become like this, but just dont know what to do next to help my mum.

Would it work if you arranged to meet her INSIDE the supermarket instead of going on the bus with her?

How old is she by the way?