Old Style Daily Wednesday 3rd October 2018

bellabella

Morning All
Dolly walked DW emptied and I might put the WM on later
Holly I will be thinking of you today but we are all behind you and I think you are doing the right thing xxx
TA thinking of you and all the family xx
Nels I had a rip roaring row with my mum last night when she said she was 50 years older than me i said no its 35 and she said no as you are 49 then she proceeded to tell me i was never any good at maths ok mum I am 49 you are 84 the difference is 35 if you were 50 years older than me you would be 99 best of it is she was a teacher not maths thank goodness:D
OL hugs to you I hope you hear from the prodigal today
Nmic hope your last day before your break goes smoothly
AOD good luck with the phone call x
Right a bit of shopping today and BBQ pork and rice for dinner. Have a great day whatever you are up to x

-taff

Going to the urgent care center this morning after picc line. Brushed my teeth and tongue lst night, when I looked it it, my tongue was just a sheet of blood. This has been the worst week so far..Had to get other half to peel onions last night because I couldn't touch them with my nails. Combined with [new] shooting pains all over and tender fingers and toes, I feel an early hibernation may be in order...Wake me up after christmas

On the plus side, the car pased it's MOT and a lovely 72 year old [he told me how old he was] came to fetch it and brought it back, and they will do the service next week. Had a good chat about china, retiring and keeping busy.

Nelski - ahhh!! I did giggle butI sympathise also
OL - good luck with him, trouble is, you can't stop someone who doesn't want to. I feel for you.
AOD - get well-er soon-er
WM - congratulations on your busy DIY success
Holly - hope you get the bed and reamin positive
Good stuff to anyone who posts between me typing this and posting [ there are always three or four more by the time I finish typing ]
Happy grey wedensday...

Olliebeak1951

Good Morning :hello:, everybody - a very dull, damp morning here in Merseyside . Typically, the local council grass-cutters are now outside my flat ...................... going to be grass clippings all over the pavements later. They have a policy of 'no collection' after cutting, so always leave the mess behind :mad:.

HollyHarvey - Hoping and praying that all goes smoothly for you this morning. How lovely of Nelski to 'keep you company' through the morning :T.

Organza - Really hope that your son can come to his senses and see reason. We think that the 'worrying' will all be over when they grow up, but - only too often - it's not the way of things .

ancientofdays - ((((healing hugs)))) to you and your OH. Hope you're both feeling better soon. I usually 'hit the run-down-chest/cold' in January; like you it can last for absolutely ages after the 'cold' part has departed . In the meantime, hoping that your DM doesn't put you under too much pressure.

newroadahead - wishing you a smooth commute journey.

WeeMidgie - congrats on fixing your blind and enjoy your Reiki session :j.

nmlc - well done on only putting on half a pound :T. That's brilliant for being on holiday .

redruby - brilliant for getting the wood for your log burner :j.

silver-oldie - hope you find your DM in 'good spirits'. Coffee/Hot Chocolate sounds divine !

camelot1001 - your Thai Green Curry sounds :drool:. It's something that I've never attempted at all - hever even tasted it. I'm a bit 'slow on the uptake' with things that I consider 'different' - but usually get there eventually ! Maybe NOW is the time to have a go .

Nelski - hope you manage to get your boiler sorted out soon . Don't want to be starting the winter months with a boiler catastrophe :eek:.

Gers - Have a good day!

bellabella - Oh dear - hope your DM isn't expecting a telegram from the Queen sometime soon . She's going to have quite a wait ! Sounds like you've already had a busy morning .

Thinking of TA's and everybody around them :heart2:.


I've got another day of 'DGS1-sitting' today - but need to pop into Aldi for a pizza for his lunch (at DD's request). I'll take a box of Salad for my own lunch - determined to get some weight off (will also be good for my fitness, improve my leg strength and reduce my BP).

Evening meal will have to be very quick tonight - I'm straight back out again for Bible Study Group at church.

I've got quite a lot of baby tomatoes, peppers, onions left from yesterday's funeral. Don't want to waste them, so need to make some kind of tomato sauce - or possibly use them up in a 'Gluten Free Sausage (or Chicken) Casserole' type of thing :think:.


Have a good day everybody - ((((Healing Hugs)))) and prayers for all who need them - Ollie xx

RosyRed

Morning all,


Good luck today Holly & I wish you well for your treatment,hope Nelski can keep you calm .
My thoughts are with the TA family xx
Organza,I'm sorry you have worries about prodigal again,it must be so hard x

Hugs to everyone else feeling under the weather,AOD my hubbie is also a member of the frog chorus atm- I just hope he doesnt pass it on to me as we are going away for a long weekend to the Lakes.
DS2 is bringing the kids up for a night. I think the change of scene will do DGS(4) good,he is still confused after his Grandad died at the weekend .I'm picking him up from school to stay over and he can have some extra TLC - not that he doesnt get plenty at home,he does,but things are a bit hard right now. I'm going to write a to do list in a bit so I dont forget to take anything
I did a bit of a Kondo on my wardrobe yesterday so there is quite a bit for the hospice shop, & summer stuff to put away in the loft.
I'm making meat pie for tea. Hope you can all have the best day you can x

TravellingAbuela

Morning lovely people and thanks HOLLY for the early start. Good luck for today and more good luck for the op when it happens. We are lucky to have NELS amongst us to keep us updated.

Here I am still living at the Hospice with Bob, day and night, at the end of two weeks. He has been worrying we might be moved elsewhere as beds are really at a premium here. It's only a small hospice with 17 beds. But the doctor confirmed yesterday he would not be getting moved anywhere unless he had changed his mind about where he wanted to be. Here or home. He confirmed he was happy to stay here. As much as I would like him to be at home I prefer him to be here with all the doctors and nurses on hand when we need them. I feel much safer.

A lady was admitted yesterday and I overheard her friend telling a nurse her family didn't know how ill she was and this would be a shock. Later a large number of her relatives had congregated in the family kitchen, including a couple of young teens. All looking terribly upset. This morning at 6.30 I went down to the kitchen again to make a coffee and they were all back in there weeping and hugging each other so it looks as though she didn't make it through the night. That would be a double shock for them. I backed out again quickly, minus a much needed coffee, but one of the nurses took pity on me and made a coffee and bacon sandwich for me, Everyone here is lovely and always ready to help both patient and relative.

All this has hit eldest DGD (14) very badly and she wants to be here every day after school to sit with her grandad. DD was telling one of the nurses she was worried about her coping afterwards and she arranged for DGD to have counselling from the on-site child counsellor yesterday. She said she had found this helpful and was seeing her weekly now for as long as she feels the need both before and afterwards.

Just awaiting DD's arrival now after the school drop. Then DS is following. He was going to have a word at work yesterday about having time off which I am glad about as he is looking drained.

As Bob is sleeping most of the time now, his visitors can come and go and he doesn't even know they have been. His DB comes every day just to sit with him for a little while. They have always been close and it upsets me and DD to see his DB so upset. Then his DB is upset when he sees us upset and we all end up having a group hug. Nothing can prepare you for how hard this is to cope with and where all the tears keep coming from.

Anyways, lots of you need ((HUGS)) just now for varying reasons. My heart goes out to OL coping with Prodigal. We all know you have always done your best and that's all you can do, as well as being there for him when he needs you. So hard for you. All you with difficult mums have my sympathy too. I have mentioned before I had 14 years of hell caring for my DM living with Parkinsons and associated Lewy Body dementia. I could write a book on coping with a difficult parent. ((HUGS)) to every one of you for whatever reason. xxxxx

SpekySquarehead

Good morning,

It’s been a hell of a 5 days.

On Friday of last week I travelled the 3 and a half hours to Manchester for my interview which I am pleased to say they offered me the job there and then!! I asked for time over the weekend before making my decision. I also want to give my current employers the opportunity to counter the offer. So, lots to think about going into the weekend.

Saturday my cousins and I went camping in Fort William. With Ben Nevis as our background and Loch Eil as our swimming pool, we made dinner by fire followed by the mandatory toasted marshmallows. The weather wasn’t all that great but we made the most of it.

As I was traveling back home I got a text from my mum asking me to call here ASAP. My dear gran had had a heart attack in the early hours of Sunday morning and was rushed to the local hospital. I made my way as quickly as possible to A&E and I met my mum outside who, through her tears, told me that she wasn’t looking good. She’s has an infection/virus which they believe has put extra pressure on the heart and caused the heart attack and so she underwent tests to find the source. She is still in hospital just now and we’ve all been at her bedside for most of that time. One minute she’s perky and bright, the next she’s short of breath and feeling discomfort in her chest. It’s been a rollercoaster.

I’ve came back to work today but I’m not sure my head is in the game. I’ve hardly had a chance to think about Manchester what with all that’s been going on. Where would I live? What would I do with my flat that I own? What if my gran doesn’t make it, I need think about my mum! What about all my friends, will they slowly slip away? I’m mentally and physically exhausted with it all. I don’t know how you lot do it - especially you TA

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Morning ((((((((((hugs)))))))))) if you need one.

Holly - I think you are doing the right thing, I am sure you will get the support you so badly need just now. I will be thinking of you.

TA you are my first thought every morning when I wake up, I am glad that Mr TA has intimated thats he wants to stay where he is, the support that a hospice is able to give to both patient and family is invaluable.

OL - I am sorry to hear you are having problems again, although children grow up, you never cease to worry about them.

CA has been, she is very good and has agreed to clean for us. I sacked the cleaners yesterday, they had not turned up by 2.30pm so I decided enough was enough. It looks as if OH will be able to care mostly for himself by the end of October, I will not stop the carers if he feels he needs them for longer, the decision is his. I know I can always get them back if we need them.

Towels in the washer, its a dull morning, the sun keeps trying to break through. I will put them out on the line for a blow, may have to finish them off in the dryer.

Half an hour yesterday was enough in the garden, managed to get a bit more clearing up done. slow but sure. OH sorted out the tub with the sweet peas in.

Coffee at the little chapel this morning, then the support worker is coming to try and set up the new alarm system in case OH falls. Nothing after lunch so a quiet afternoon. I need to child proof the living room. DD1 is coming in the morning and bringing GGS with her. He has a new toy....a digger, apparently he spends a lot of time watching the builders on the site. A video was posted of him on his digger, lifting the arm up and down and swinging the bucket......the look on his face was priceless. He then saw Daddy with an orange, break time was called, orange break not tea break, whilst he refreshed himself after all his hard work!!

Sausage beans and jacket potato for supper, more of the orange drizzle cake with ice cream for dessert.

bellabella

Speky
Not sure what to say lots of big stuff going on but you seem to me to have answered your own questions re the new job .I hope your Nan is a bit better today when you visit . I hope you manage to find 10 minutes to sit quietly and clear your mind . x

poppy811

Sorry Specky, awful time for you. I know how fond you are of your Gran.
Holly wishing you all the best today
Taff, you are really going through the Mill, hope things improve soon

I had a telephone consultation with the Oncologist and is happy with my blood levels etc. so I need to carry on with the medication for another week. It will then be my week off and then will see him after that

Off to village coffee morning shortly and then a chap is coming to do quite a few niggly jobs for me. I have been looking for a handyman for ages and one of my friends recommended him.

snoozer

Speky, I'm sorry about you grandma, I hope she gets over this. As to the job, all I can say is that my SiL, Brian is a Weegie and has maintained close ties with friends and family up there, despite living in London for over a decade. HOWEVER, I think he usually has to make the effort to see them rather than vice-versa (his mother has never visited Laura and Brian in the 8 years they have been together).

TA, my thoughts are with you, Bob and the rest of your family, especially your DGS, 14 is such a difficult age for the emotions and she obviously has a really close relationship with the two of you.

Holly, I hope the day is less stressful than anticipated and OL - there is nothing I can say, life can be so hard!

I had a jaunt to London yesterday to see Laura's friend, Pailin, who is a homeopath. It's nice to be able to chat to someone about my feelings and worries because I have to keep them to myself with family.

Anyway, a quiet day is in order today, sewing and walking Ziggy.