Put to sleep or potential life saving surgery

MrBrindle

To update, we put Jasper down on Sunday night as he deteriorated quite a bit over the weekend.

I am in pieces at the moment. I have a partner and two beautiful girls, but I cannot hold it together for them.

Seeing him there lifeless in our kitchen is something I fear I will never get over. Everything is a reminder, and I feel empty knowing he will never be right behind me like he always used to. He was always in my shadow, and I feel completely lost.

suki1964

Grief is so difficult to cope with those first few days and weeks, let the tears flow it helps

I never could get over the loss of Gunnar, I just couldn't cope with not hearing him in the home, following me around, snuggling up to me, just being there, after about 8 weeks I started researching another puppy and I got Alfie.

Alfie was never Gunnar . Oh I loved him to bits and he truly was a lovely dog, but he was never Gunnar and never took my heart as Gunnar had

Alfie passed two years ago now and once again I couldn't cope with the quietness but I went for a rescue cat this time

14 years down the line, Gunnar is always in my thoughts and I still find it hard to talk about his death without tearing up

I guess Im trying to say, that what you are feeling now is normal and understandable. It gets easier with time but you will never forget him

NeverendingDMP

We took the same decision on Monday night with our dog. She had deteriorated so much it was the only right thing for us to do. Its very hard isn't it. We haven't quite adjusted yet and we all keep forgetting and going to the back door to let her in and out.
Thinking of you all x

DD265

I'm so sorry

Soot2006

So sorry - it never gets any easier, but I always think it's the mark of a good person to love them so much

thorsoak

You did the most loving, responsible thing that you could have ever done for Jasper - you gave him the gift of release. He will remain in your hearts forever - at the moment you have tears - let them flow - in the future, the tears will dry and the smiles will come back as you remember his little ways. {{{hugs}}}

Murphybear

:May I Go Now?

May I go now?
Do you think the time is right?
May I say goodbye to pain filled days
and endless lonely nights?
I've lived my life and done my best,
an example tried to be.
So can I take that step beyond
and set my spirit free?

I didn't want to go at first,
I fought with all my might.
But something seems to draw me now
to a warm and loving light.
I want to go
I really do.
It's difficult to stay.

But I will try as best I can
to live just one more day.
To give you time to care for me
and share your love and fears.
I know you're sad and afraid,
because I see your tears.

I'll not be far,
I promise that, and hope you'll always know
that my spirit will be close to you
wherever you may go.
Thank you so for loving me.
You know I love you too,
that's why it's hard to say goodbye
and end this life with you.

So hold me now just one more time
and let me hear you say,
because you care so much for me,
you'll let me go today.

- Written for a beloved pet & friend, by Susan A. Jackson


MY heart goes out to you. I have had many cats over the years and knowing when to let them go is so hard.

There is only one thing that matters and that is your pets quality of life. When we lost Murphy (see avatar) a few years ago we were heartbroken but knew it was his time. Our current cat is 15 and fortunately fit and healthy but we know one day she will have to go.

I know you will do what is best for your beloved pet and send you hugs

:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

You did the right thing.

That doesn't stop it hurting so much right now, but in time, it will be a comfort to you that, as soon as it was right and it was clear that he could not be cured, you stepped up, took responsibility and made the kindest decision for Jasper, putting him first rather than your own feelings.

You never gave up on him.

MrBrindle

Hi all, thanks for the further messages. Still feeling extremely low after his passing.

Over the past few months I have been suffering from depression, and I cannot help but blame myself for being selfish and not noticing any slight changes in his behaviour or physical appearance.

When we had Jasper, I always imagined he would be the first of many, as I'd always loved the idea of rescuing dogs throughout my life. However, I don't think I can do it again. Ever since the day we got him, when he bit my nose, then shoved his head into my chest apologetically, I knew he would become a special part of our lives.

It's a frightening thought to think that this pain won't ever pass.

Red-Squirrel_2

MrBrindle wrote: »

Hi all, thanks for the further messages. Still feeling extremely low after his passing.

Over the past few months I have been suffering from depression, and I cannot help but blame myself for being selfish and not noticing any slight changes in his behaviour or physical appearance.

When we had Jasper, I always imagined he would be the first of many, as I'd always loved the idea of rescuing dogs throughout my life. However, I don't think I can do it again. Ever since the day we got him, when he bit my nose, then shoved his head into my chest apologetically, I knew he would become a special part of our lives.

It's a frightening thought to think that this pain won't ever pass.

Grief and loss don't go away but the pain eventually becomes less acute. The loss and the memories become part of you and you carry on a little bit changed but all the richer for having known and loved the person or animal you lost.

Don't blame yourself, dogs are incredibly stoic and their instinct is to hide any pain or discomfort. He let you know when he was ready to go and you listened.