ex tried to remove dd tooth with string!!!!

mumof3girls

did not give him any abuse at all, just said that he could have said that it will come out when its ready to come out, it is only very slighty wobbly and not hanging on in there by a thread and has only just started to be wobblie in the past week or so! he thought it was funny! just like he though it was funny when i insisted that he gives our youngest daughter her asthma medication on a regular basis!.

patchwork_cat

Hi
The string and door thing is used commonly for baby teeth. I haven't used it on my kids, but can remember friends doing it as a child.It isn't unusual. However to have bruised her is a bit much.
I know 100% were you are coming from as the resident parent and principal carer. It does seem a bit foolish of your ex if only in the fact that he has prob. upset his daughter having not seen her for 4 months.
My daughter won't let anyone touch her wobbly baby teeth, incidental she lost her last one last night!, and they can get quite sore. It is v frustrating when she complains, but won't wobble it enough or let anyone else. She has been to the dentist to have one wobbly tooth removed as it got so painful and she wouldn't let anyone else touch it. There was virtually nothing left of it it had almost been reabsorbed!

RadoJo

Hi Mum of 3 - I edited my message just before I saw your reply as I decided that abuse was a bit strong given there was no suggestion of it from your post!! In light of that, I would say not only that your ex could do with some education, but also that you might need to sort out some ground rules about health issues to ensure that you are both confident in the other's ability to look after the little ones.

hobo28

No-one's suggesting abuse. Stupid is perhaps the best way of describing it. Personally I'd be very wary of letting someone so stupid look after my kids. Even if it were the other parent!

If the tooth was v. wobbly, perhaps. But it was not. Plus using dolls glasses!?!?! What next, knitting needles and a spoon perhaps? What about a can of Special Brew as an appropriate anesthetic!?!?

asea

hflower74 wrote: »

Blinkin stupid if you ask me.

Your poor little girl, hope shes ok.

Some men are unbelievable :mad:

so are plenty of women!!!

mumof3girls

i did and have! he just does not listen even when i do so via solisitor. incorrect car seats was the first thing after having them back. I stopped contact last time for the medication not being given to 2 children, not turning up regulary, not brushing thier hair, not doing home work or reading, being looked after by an unfit teenager, to many things to mention when on there own are not tto bad but alltogether and repeatadly are big! It has took the csa over 6 months to get money from him (from his works now). his new girlfriend is only 20 and i think that she thinks they are little toys and they always come back damaged in some way. I know accedents happen, but surly he can learn from them and not repeat them over and over.

mumof3girls

hobo28 wrote: »

No-one's suggesting abuse. Stupid is perhaps the best way of describing it. Personally I'd be very wary of letting someone so stupid look after my kids. Even if it were the other parent!

If the tooth was v. wobbly, perhaps. But it was not. Plus using dolls glasses!?!?! What next, knitting needles and a spoon perhaps? What about a can of Special Brew as an appropriate anesthetic!?!?

it not just me then?!

Toothsmith

There is obviously more going on here than just a loose/not loose tooth.

I would document all instances very carefully.

hobo28

mumof3girls wrote: »

i did and have! he just does not listen even when i do so via solisitor. incorrect car seats was the first thing after having them back. I stopped contact last time for the medication not being given to 2 children, not turning up regulary, not brushing thier hair, not doing home work or reading, being looked after by an unfit teenager, to many things to mention when on there own are not tto bad but alltogether and repeatadly are big! It has took the csa over 6 months to get money from him (from his works now). his new girlfriend is only 20 and i think that she thinks they are little toys and they always come back damaged in some way. I know accedents happen, but surly he can learn from them and not repeat them over and over.

Good god, I've said it once and I'll say it again. The guy is an idiot. Unfortunately, even stupid people have rights!

As toothsmith says, you should be documenting all instances. Because if you decide to deny access again, i think each instance on its own would not be sufficient cause to withhold access(hey we all make mistakes!). I guess you'd have to convince a judge that when all taken together, your ex not fit to have unsupervised contact.

jbbonce

As this is not just a one-off, maybe you should think about supervised visits. Are your ex's parents around at all? Might they be able to be there when he sees your kids? perhaps family mediation is another avenue to explore.

I think i would probably get it documented in case you do need to go to court to get court appointed supervision.