ex tried to remove dd tooth with string!!!!

mumof3girls

after the ex not seeing the girls for over 4 months we have resumed contact. He has already let them down once in 2 months so he could go out for the night. was not the point he was going out but just did not turn up with no call or text, nothing. Get to the point.
He call to collect them this weekend (15 mins early) anyway they came back on time and the middle dd went on to tell me that her wobbly tooth was hurting. so i had a look and her gum under and around is brusied (purple) so i asked her what had she donr. She replied daddy tried to pull it out with his fingers, but his fingers where too big so he put some string round and tied it to a door, but it didnt work! DD1 them jumped in and said he also tried to use i little pair sunglasses belonging to a barbie doll to try to remove the tooth.:eek:
I did not call him because it sounded so crazy. anyway had to call him this morning as DD1 left her glasses in his car, so while on the phone to him i asked him most calmly what was with DD2 tooth, he repeated the whole story word for word apart from it was wool not string as the girls had told me:eek: . I tried to point out to him that the tooth has only just become wobbly and is now way near ready to come out and that it was not the responsible thing to have done. he laughed at me and said i was over reacting and that people have been doing it for years. I said yes with rotten teeth maybe not milk teeth that are not ready to come out. i told him it will come out when its ready. I really am in a state of OMG what the hell was he thinking.

Do any of you lot think i was over reacting??? my mum thinks i should take her to the dentist to get it documented just incase he does antthing stupid again??

hobo28

mumof3girls wrote: »

Do any of you lot think i was over reacting??? my mum thinks i should take her to the dentist to get it documented just incase he does antthing stupid again??

Your ex is an idiot. I would tell him rather bluntly to leave stuff like that to you in future and if he tried it again, I'd withhold contact. I'm not one for advocating withholding contact but what a moron. He could have done some real harm.

Take your DD to see a dentist, not to score points but to set your mind at ease.

sooz

I remember doing the wool/door thing with milk teeth .....not that long ago either (my own milk teeth )

But this was only ever used as a last resort when the tooth was so wobbly, and still wouldn't come out on it's own!

Never heard of using a doll's glasses though!

mumof3girls

Never heard of using a doll's glasses though![/quote]

new to me too!! very novel!!:mad:

Toothsmith

Tricky one.

Parents are perfectly entitled to help their kids wobble out baby teeth.

Sometimes, teeth that only just seem to have begun to be wobbly ARE ready to come out. If they are really wobbly, then they can get painful.

But - the tooth didn't come out.

Either your ex is really ham fisted, in which case he shouldn't ever attempt such things, or the reason for the tooth being wobbly is infection, and trying to do a DIY extraction is totally the wrong thing to do.

If in any doubt at all, a dentist should always be consulted.

I would take her to the dentist to see just what is going on with the tooth. And carefully document what has happened.

Probably just more stupid that abusive

hflower74

Blinkin stupid if you ask me.

Your poor little girl, hope shes ok.

Some men are unbelievable :mad:

mumof3girls

thansk for all the above, have got her in at the dentist at 3pm today so will see what they say.
stupid, I have seen some stupid things from him in the past but this is just soo unbeliveable, i even thought the kids were taking the p*** out of meand they are only 6,5 & 3.:eek:

MRSMCAWBER

Hi there

i'd be inclined to try and remove something of your ex's with a piece of wool and a door..and it would be a lot lower down than his tooth .... and wool on teeth :eek: eeeeekk it makes that horrible squeaky noise ....
hope you DD is ok,

pinkshoes

I think you're being a bit harsh on him, as he was probably only trying to help and didn't mean to cause any pain/bruising. Accidents DO happen, and if a tooth is wobbly, it IS a sign it's ready to come out. I tried the cotton/doorhandle thing with my brother's tooth, but it didn't work!! It's written in so many classic old kids books that we thought it would be funny to try!!

mumof3girls

pinkshoes wrote: »

I think you're being a bit harsh on him, as he was probably only trying to help and didn't mean to cause any pain/bruising. Accidents DO happen, and if a tooth is wobbly, it IS a sign it's ready to come out. I tried the cotton/doorhandle thing with my brother's tooth, but it didn't work!! It's written in so many classic old kids books that we thought it would be funny to try!!

trying things on your brother when your a kid yourself is i think slightly different than a so called responsable grown man trying things on his daughter! can not remember ever try to prize the tooth out with a peice of plastic though!!!!

RadoJo

My Dad used to pull out my wobbly teeth with dirty pliers - never did me any harm. In fact, I would have been more bothered if he was trying to pull out a damaged tooth as it could have been fixed.
I understand that this might not be the way you would have done it, but if he meant well and didn't do any harm, it might be best to just mention that a gentler approach would be more appropriate, rather than putting him on the defensive from the outset. At least he was trying to help - if she had come home and told you that she had said it was bothering her and all he had said was 'tell your Mum when you get home' then you might have felt equally angry!

IMO a dentist visit for a wobbly baby tooth is overkill, but I understand your concern.