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How to help my niece

Mrs_pbradley936 · 2018-09-03 16:51:16

Hello, My niece has been in touch (she is 28 and newly married) saying that she is over her head in debt. She has a good job but obviously spends too much. I have enough to help her BUT I could not do it without my husband knowing and he would ask why her parents are not helping. My niece does not want my sister to know (I…

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jackieblack Posts: 10,632 Forumite

5 September 2018 at 8:38AM

Mojisola wrote: »

you are enabling her to continue her destructive ways instead of getting her to face up to her issues and deal with them.

Add to that the potential damage you are doing to your relationship with your sister when she finds out that you have enabled her daughter's overspending.

This ^^ !
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