Advice on "unreasonable behaviour" in divorce proceedings

davidwood681

paddy's_mum wrote: »

My reading of this is that the financial shenanigans are actively LEADING to a divorce and not that a planned divorce is highlighting a previously unimportant issue.

I have to say that if my spouse behaved with such blatant disregard for my efforts, earnings and contribution, my willingness to share, my desire to be consulted as (at the very least) an equal partner in the matrimonial venture, I'd have been seeking legal advice long ago!

Why should a spouse be funding everything out of the one pocket while the other spouse keeps their financial running shoes in good order, to the decided advantage of a high earning niece and her spouse and the unhappiness of the person you made vows to...including, I might add, that little promise about all that I own I share with you.

This husband surely cannot claim that he is about to suffer penury (no pension, no job) when he has calmly and cold-bloodedly thrown away a large amount of income, both real and potential.

They are married and all such important decisions should be made jointly and with fairness. If he won't be fair, don't be surprised if she decides she is better off without a millstone round her neck.

There are thousands upon thousands of couples who operate this way in the UK.

The difference is the man is usually the one working and the woman (the ones without children) are like the bloke in the OP's post.

They make TV shows about them for crying out loud

Mojisola

davidwood681 wrote: »

There are thousands upon thousands of couples who operate this way in the UK.

The difference is the man is usually the one working and the woman (the ones without children) are like the bloke in the OP's post.

The difference is that both partners in the couple have agreed to do things this way.

davidwood681

Mojisola wrote: »

The difference is that both partners in the couple have agreed to do things this way.

I agree, the OP has agreed to this set up.

chesky

davidwood681 wrote: »

I agree, the OP has agreed to this set up.

For a start, it's not the OP, it's their sister. And I don't see anywhere that she agreed to the issues. Seems to me she didn't have anything to say in the matter.

I'd advise her to visit a good divorce solicitor, not rely on this particular forum, as it's being dominated by one contributor who seems to have a 'bee in their bonnet' on this one.

Marisco

Personally I'd walk. I wouldn't want to be with someone who thought so little of me, that he puts his niece before me. In an ideal world, what should happen is, they *sell the 400k house and have a nice life together with no money worries.


* I say sell, as being a "proper" LL when you're cracking on a bit could be hard work, and you don't really want all the hassle when you're pensioners.