employed and unemployed relationships

helen1960

My partner and i are thinking abut moving in together he is on ESA as he is disabled and unable to work, and i work full time, would he lose all his benefit, if i move in with him or would i be better of going part time before i move in with him

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helen1960 wrote: »

My partner and i are thinking abut moving in together he is on ESA as he is disabled and unable to work, and i work full time, would he lose all his benefit, if i move in with him or would i be better of going part time before i move in with him

Why would you go part time? If he was too lose his benefits he would still lose them with you working part time and you'd be worse off.


What benefits does he receive? Is his ESA Income Based or Contributions based?

kingfisherblue

What he would lose in benefits, you would save by having only one gas bill, one electricity bill, one water bill, etc.

helen1960

if he lost his benifits he would only get his pip which is not enough for his personal use and my wages would only just cover the bills with my commitments that i have to pay out and he would not want me to keep him

helen1960

its Contributions based and he also gets pip which is much but he would also lose his servere disability allowance

elsien

If you are able to work full time then you should continue to do so. In my humble opinion. If you're a couple then you're a couple. If I lost my job, my partner would have to "keep" me. It's not what any of us particularly want, but that's what being a couple involved. For better and for worse, and all that.

kingfisherblue

elsien wrote: »

If you are able to work full time then you should continue to do so. In my humble opinion. If you're a couple then you're a couple. If I lost my job, my partner would have to "keep" me. It's not what any of us particularly want, but that's what being a couple involved. For better and for worse, and all that.

I'd love to thank this twice.

K80_Black

I'm in a similar situation - looking at moving in with the other half who works full time, and I do not work due to disability. My solution is to save as much as possible now, while I get both ESA and PIP, then try working part time when we start cohabiting. My savings should allow me some breathing space while I find a job that I can comfortably do for 8-12 hours a week, to top up my PIP a little and allow me to not be 'kept'. That seems like the only option to me!

helen1960

unfortunately my partner is in no fit state to work due to his disability, otherwise it would of been a lot easier to do

skcollobcat10

I feel being in a new relationship, one disabled and other able bodied, it puts financial problems in the way of getting to know each other.

Yes, after a while of getting to know if relationship is going to work in the long term, then sorting out the financials later is better.

Nowadays relationships come and go, separation and divorce is more common than may be 40 years ago.

I would not want the disabled partner to suffer the discrimination of being carried financially by the other partner.

Surely in this day and age, especially if people have had a working career before disablement considering the taxes they have paid pre-disablement and also national insurance contributions they have made, disabled people should be adequately protected in their own individual right by this government if they are never able to work again.

New relationship with financial problems and not on an even keel with partner brings more problems.

It appears to me disabled people are being discriminated through know fault of their own, and really everybody deserves to be able to find a loving caring partner without these obstacles in their way. This is why a lot of disabled are wary of sharing a life with another and stay single.

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skcollobcat10 wrote: »

I feel being in a new relationship, one disabled and other able bodied, it puts financial problems in the way of getting to know each other.

Yes, after a while of getting to know if relationship is going to work in the long term, then sorting out the financials later is better.

Nowadays relationships come and go, separation and divorce is more common than may be 40 years ago.

I would not want the disabled partner to suffer the discrimination of being carried financially by the other partner.

Surely in this day and age, especially if people have had a working career before disablement considering the taxes they have paid pre-disablement and also national insurance contributions they have made, disabled people should be adequately protected in their own individual right by this government if they are never able to work again.

New relationship with financial problems and not on an even keel with partner brings more problems.

It appears to me disabled people are being discriminated through know fault of their own, and really everybody deserves to be able to find a loving caring partner without these obstacles in their way. This is why a lot of disabled are wary of sharing a life with another and stay single.

I don't think this is true, I can't work due to disabilities and my husband 'keeps' me. Though at the start of our relationship I was the one who kept him, he also has a disability and struggled to work then.

It's not discrimination it's a normal relationship, the ups and downs of supporting a loved one.

It would be discriminatory however to give disabled people something ie benefits which are not available to the non disabled population.