Which dating site would be best for finding someone who wants to settle down and have a family?

MovingForwards

Sorry I havent mastered the art of quoting / tagging on this forum yet!

"Do many people meet through forums? I can't really imagine many do! How would that work?"

I am one of three people, that I know of on the same forum who have met their partner there, (1) two of us are living with OH's, (2) one has had a baby and is living with their OH as a family unit.

How does it work? Well, you join a group relating to a hobby/interest and participate, get to speak with males/females about this common interest, attend fuctions/events and get to know people face2face, keep talking to people on-line, threads are started about who lives where, more outings/events and hey presto you are no longer single.

Admittedly (1) both of us arranged to go on a date with our respective forum buddy and (2) arranged a date following an event they both attended.

What we all have in common is building up the friendship over a couple of years.

(1) the couple couple have just turned 50, lived within 100miles of each other. The other pair (me) are early 40's and lived over 300 miles from each other.

(2) the couple are late 20's/early 30's and lived about 20 miles from each other.

It is all about keeping an open mind and being willing to share your life with another and compromise.

Do you have much dating experience?

KnightRider

JamesFuller wrote: »

OP you are better off asking women in person.

Online dating is a whole load of rubbish for long-term relationships of anything meaningful.

Why?

Just look at the way the apps are designed, they are like games where you are always swiping and that is what people do secretly even if they are dating someone. It's rare to find someone who will delete their account once you start dating.

On top of this, it is quite looks based.

I don't have many positive things to say about online dating if you are looking for a serious relationship, sorry to say.

Unfortunately OkCupid has moved in that direction which is why I don't really get on with it that well anymore. I don't really get the whole swiping left/right culture just based on pictures (not interested in Tindr, hookup apps, etc.). Sadly, people's profiles seem to be following suit - I see an awful lot with pictures but very little information. That's a problem for me as pictures are ok but I'm looking for something with a bit more substance, i.e. someone who I will get on with and enjoy being with, have common interests, wants a serious relationship, etc. but interesting profiles where somebody has spent more than 5 minutes seem to be rare.

MovingForwards wrote: »

Sorry I havent mastered the art of quoting / tagging on this forum yet!

"Do many people meet through forums? I can't really imagine many do! How would that work?"

I am one of three people, that I know of on the same forum who have met their partner there, (1) two of us are living with OH's, (2) one has had a baby and is living with their OH as a family unit.

How does it work? Well, you join a group relating to a hobby/interest and participate, get to speak with males/females about this common interest, attend fuctions/events and get to know people face2face, keep talking to people on-line, threads are started about who lives where, more outings/events and hey presto you are no longer single.

Admittedly (1) both of us arranged to go on a date with our respective forum buddy and (2) arranged a date following an event they both attended.

What we all have in common is building up the friendship over a couple of years.

(1) the couple couple have just turned 50, lived within 100miles of each other. The other pair (me) are early 40's and lived over 300 miles from each other.

(2) the couple are late 20's/early 30's and lived about 20 miles from each other.

It is all about keeping an open mind and being willing to share your life with another and compromise.

Do you have much dating experience?

That's great that you met someone through a forum! :-) I just couldn't imagine how it would work for me. I don't really frequent many forums these days - most things seem to have moved to social media - and I've not really come across any that are particularly local but I'll keep it in mind, thanks. :-)


Interestingly, somebody did message me on here. They sounded nice but they were just too far away (which I guess is the problem on a forum that's for the whole country). I am trying to be more open to perhaps going the extra mile (literally!) as good people are hard to find... so the right person would probably be worth the extra, although I'd still like to be able to see them regularly (I'm not looking for a penfriend!).

sitesafe

You could try this newish dating site called old style dating - over 25s only though. Meant to be all about old fashioned values etc. Set up by a woman whose daughter was fed up of The dating sites out there. Think you have to pay a subscription though. You can't look until you've registered though so can't see if there's many on there.