Bizarre behaviour from neighbours, at wits end!

chesky

Why would they own a mower if their garden is totally paved over? I'm delighted that my neighbour mows my front lawn out of the goodness of his heart.

calleyw

chesky wrote: »

Why would they own a mower if their garden is totally paved over? I'm delighted that my neighbour mows my front lawn out of the goodness of his heart.

My ex next door neighbour did!!!! He had two.



He did cut the grass for me a couple of times.


He had an ulterior motive though :eek:


Yours


Calley x

Gravy0

Maybe it's the landlord they have a grudge against - you say they've done it with previous tenants and also while the landlord was trying to sell the property - sounds to me that they're more likely trying to do the landlord out of making money (scaring tenants and potential house-buyers away)

Maid_of_Kent

When we were trying to sell my mother-in-law's house, every time there was a viewing, one of the neighbours would come out and tell the viewers that there was a problem with subsidence.

It turned out he had unrelated issues with the local council, but it put several people off and we lost at least one sale because of him.

Podd

So sorry for you. Sounds as if you!!!8217;ve gone from one kind of DV to another. Your neighbours are bullying you & violating your personal space. I!!!8217;m over 60 & believe me they are not too old to behave properly or be accountable for their behaviour. Are you having counselling to help recover from the DV? Like others I feel you must tell your LL about the trees or risk being held responsible. And the messing with their heads is a great idea. But this is about you & how you!!!8217;re being hurt by obsessing about these sad people (which is entirely understandable - I!!!8217;d be the same). Tell your LL. Get your own back if you can. But most of all, look after you & get help (GP may be a start if sympathetic). There!!!8217;s an old saying !!!8216;to live well yourself is the best revenge!!!8217;. It!!!8217;s good advice. Hang on in there!

Podd

PS every time I!!!8217;ve put an apostrophe it!!!8217;s put loads of symbols - not sure why ... but it!!!8217;s not me swearing!

gloriouslyhappy

Ozzuk wrote: »

Don't get me wrong, their behavior is appalling. But you have let it slide - for understandable reasons. Now it's going to be much harder to address so why bother? Do you really want the stress/hassle of a confrontation?

If you do then hey, go for it. They'll ignore any letter so you'll have to talk to them. Hence why I suggest ignoring them and comfort yourself in the fact it won't be your problem much longer...

Sounds awful, but you only have another eight weeks, so let it go as suggested above by Ozzuk. But do inform the landlord about the missing trees, let him make his own assumptions about who did it, and stress you were away when the vandalism happened. Good luck!

Silvertabby

Podd wrote: »

PS every time I!!!8217;ve put an apostrophe it!!!8217;s put loads of symbols - not sure why ... but it!!!8217;s not me swearing!

Don't worry, we know you're not swearing! It's a long standing problem between this website and Apple products. Don't know why it hasn't been fixed yet - anyone?

AylesburyDuck

ruthhardy wrote: »

My neighbours have done a lot of stuff over the past year of my tenancy but yesterday was the final straw. I returned home from a business trip where I was away for a whole week. I ironically was sellotaping a notice to my front window stating for post not to be left with them if I’m not in and I noticed the trees missing from my front garden. They’ve only gone and cut down my two trees to the stump, taken all of the wood and left me with the leafy branches! They have a thing for wood I’m not sure if they have a log fire or something. They’re constantly getting deliveries of it.

I’m just in awe. I would be less annoyed if they had tried to speak to me about an issue they may have I.e it was blocking their sunlight. It was nowhere near their front garden, I always make sure they’re not overhanging and keep my gardens immaculate incase anyone is wanting to sell. They clearly waited until I was away to do it because they know I would I gone mad if I saw them in my garden! I hate it now it just looks bare and dead. They’ve killed off a lot of my gorgeous green grass that I’ve spent money on keeping it nice and I know I might be thinking too much but I think they’ve also sprayed weed killer over my grass as there are quite a lot of dead patches now. Plus they’ve trampled all over it and it’s not meant to be walked on. There’s paths around it.

Their garden is completely paved, no room for nice grass or planted flowers so I think they might have been slightly jealous of it. Or they’re just incredibly petty and passive aggressive. Or both. Now the weird thing is that they’re an elderly couple and it’s a lot of effort to go to cutting trees down. They’ve done countless weird and intrusive things such as text my parents when I had friends over on St Patrick’s Day telling them that I was having an ‘out of control house party’ and they were ready to call the police. It was 7pm and there were 4 people in my house. There was no music being played. It was the first time I had friends in my house since I split with my partner (DV which is why they had my parents number so they could tell them if they saw him near my house). They abused having their number and also messaged them a week later telling them my windows were dirty! I’ve never known anything so ridiculous. They’re not dirty there’s just condensation trapped between the glazing. Crazily enough I’ve never actually spoken to them. They always stare me down and give me dirty looks when I walk past them. What kind of people look up from what they’re doing, stare down a person and essentially watch what they’re doing until they’ve left their eyesight! They always stare and watch me when we’re both outside. I know I might be a little paranoid but when I’m talking in my bedroom sometimes the stairs are quite creeky in their house I can hear them hovering on the stairs for a long time so I think they try and listen in to what I’m saying.

I’m moving but still have to put up with them for 2 months. I don’t think speaking to them face to face is a good idea right now so am going to post a letter through. How should I word it and what should I say?

The underlined is all you need to focus on, and unless you really want them to ramp up the agro for the next two months i dont think i'd bother with the letter. 2 months and your gone, versus 2 months of absolute hell beyond what they normally do. I know i'd be keeping my head down.

TBagpuss

I think it is essnetial that you notify your landlord immediately, so that you don't end up being blamed.

I would also recommend logging it with the police .

If you do send a letter, I would keep it short and simpl:

"I'm aware that you have on a number of ocassions come onto my property, includeing on [date] when you cut my grass and on [date] when you cut down the trees in my front garden.

This is not acceptable. For the avoidance of doubt, I confirm that you are not to enter my garden or come onto my property for any reason in the future and I will regard any attempt to enter or attempt my property(including the garden) or any interference with any items such as bins, gates, plants etc to be harassment and will report it to the police as such, I will provide them with a copy of this letter as evidence that you have been warned that such behaviour will be considered to be harassment."

I would also log the most recent incident with the police. Explain the background and previous incidents, and that you are worried about escalation - they would typically need reports of more than one separate incident before they can take action, but reporting it, getting a crime no. etc should help to show your Landlord that you have done what you can, (and may enable them to claim on their insurance for the damage, if they want to)