Thinking of buying wife a house and getting a legal separation

The_Maestro

Scorpio33 wrote: »

Hi!

I am in a similar position, although, we both work and have a lot less assets. I am also being made redundant, so am able to look for a job that fits around the kids in the future.

From what I understand about the divorce process, they will start with a 50/50 split of the assets and then that will be amended based on many factors. One of them is who is the main carer going forward, but they will also look at potential earning powers. Now that is not your current salary, but what you could earn. As you work and she doesn't, that would mean that she would get a greater share of the assets. The children are one factor, but as she doesn't work, she would be entitled to more of the assets.
Apart from the split of the assets, the future payment to your wife as I understand it is child maintenance and spousal maintenance. Child maintenance can be zero if you have a 50/50 split of the child care (which includes daytimes). From what I understand, spousal maintenance is rare and generally doesn't get awarded these days.

The other thing is you both need to be able to live going forward, so she will need to look into finding a job, but she will also need to look at benefits. From what I understand, if you have assets greater than £16k (excluding your main home and pension), then no benefits will be paid (apart from the child benefit which everyone gets). Given the £8k savings + the flat in Moscow, it is likely she will get zero benefits, and a possible solution is for her to sell the flat in Moscow and use her savings. Once those assets have been exhausted, then benefits can be looked into. To be fair though, these are things she needs to look into.

The only other aspect is that the split of assets as decided by the courts is above, but any agreement between you and her is cheaper and better than what the court decides. So basically, your plan is a good one, as long as she agrees to it...

I agree with what you say. I don't agree with 'potential earning powers' thing though. I mean I agree with you that it is probably like that in case law, but I don't agree with it ethically

swingaloo

The_Maestro wrote: »

Hi,


There is a very small chance we may get back together I suppose after some breathing space which is the reason for the legal separation rather than getting a divorce straight away.

Arthur[/QUOTE


If you speak to your wife as you have spoken to some on here
then I wouldn't hold your breath on that one. I think your user name speaks volumes.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

The_Maestro wrote: »

I will speak to people talking rubbish of an internet forum how I like, and treat your comment with the contempt it deserves. I wish I could sue you for the 10 seconds of my life you just wasted.

I wasn't attacking you, I was pointing out that you would need to bear in mind that if the Police attended because of your behaviour, that will likely be mentioned in the process and it would be a good idea to moderate your tone when you are speaking to people who have the power to make legally binding orders that affect your likelihood of staying in the marital home and contact arrangements with both your children.



However, by all means go for it. Speak like this in court. Tell the Judge what a lazy piece of scum your wife is and make a point of not mentioning the baby as though it doesn't exist. Complain about how sexist the Court System is and how it's full of Social Justice Warriors. Show what a superb role model you would be for your children by demonstrating assertiveness, confidence and a sound grounding in how to relate to others, particularly women.


I'd be interested to hear how that pans out for you.

The_Maestro

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

I wasn't attacking you, I was pointing out that you would need to bear in mind that if the Police attended because of your behaviour, that will likely be mentioned in the process and it would be a good idea to moderate your tone when you are speaking to people who have the power to make legally binding orders that affect your likelihood of staying in the marital home and contact arrangements with both your children.

However, by all means go for it. Speak like this in court. Tell the Judge what a lazy piece of scum your wife is and make a point of not mentioning the baby as though it doesn't exist. Complain about how sexist the Court System is and how it's full of Social Justice Warriors. Show what a superb role model you would be for your children by demonstrating assertiveness, confidence and a sound grounding in how to relate to others, particularly women.


I'd be interested to hear how that pans out for you.

Why are you saying you are interested in seeing how something pans out which is a fantasy scenario and not something I've remotely said I plan to do?

Where did I say anything about how I would speak to a court?
Where did I say anyone was a "lazy piece of scum". I haven't said anything like that even on here let alone contemplated saying that to a court.
How can you say I made/will make a point of not mentioning a baby when I mentioned it?

It seems like you are trying to put yourself on a level playing field with a court/judge both in how powerful you see yourself and how much respect you deserve.

But no. I would speak to a court one way and you another way because you are a total muppet and have no influence on my life.

Go back to nurturing your fantasies on your own.

The_Maestro

swingaloo wrote: »

The_Maestro wrote: »

Hi,


There is a very small chance we may get back together I suppose after some breathing space which is the reason for the legal separation rather than getting a divorce straight away.

Arthur[/QUOTE


If you speak to your wife as you have spoken to some on here
then I wouldn't hold your breath on that one. I think your user name speaks volumes.

Wow, triggered by a username!