Elderly stepchild

Top_Girl

Your dad needs to phone 901 and arrange for a PC or PCSO to accompany him onto the property to collect his paperwork if nothing else. You should go too. Ideally with a video camera.

Both of you need to be absolutely calm throughout this and all dealings with sister and mum. Box clever. If they are as you say, your calmness will make your sister misbehave in front of witnesses. Self control is paramount here. Go home and rant at each other afterwards if you need to. At this stage, you need to be bulletproof.

plantsandflowers

He already did that. They turned up. He told them he needed to collect some paperwork. Mum objected. Police told HIM to leave and consult a solicitor. He tried to play them the recording of him being assaulted. They didn't want to know.

plantsandflowers

I know this thread is a bit old now but I've been waiting for things to happen. Dads found himself a flat now. Moves in next week. He went back to his house last week for some paperwork he needed for I.D . Two days ago he received a solicitors letter. Saying as he was removed by the police previously (he wasn't "removed" he volunteered to go )and he has harassed and molested his wife. (He hasn't) Any further attempt to enter his own house will be met with an immediate non molestation and occupancy order being placed on him. She won't even let him take anything from the house. She won't Even talk about selling and she will still not unfreeze the bank account! She has no evidence of any molestation. How could she? But now he finds himself not even able to get his own clothing without the chance of a court order being placed upon him. It is all so unfair. The guy is broken.

Morglin

He really needs to see a solicitor.

Lin

Kynthia

He's legally entitled to his possessions. Talk to a solicitor about how to go to court for them. Divorce and obtaining his share of the martial assets could be the step after that.

HampshireH

Hopefully his pension etc is now being paid into a new account and he is no longer named on any household bills. If the internet for example was in just his name he can transfer that to his new flat.

Solicitor ASAP is the way to go. Especially as your mum is that way inclined.

He may also wish to amend his will to ensure his assets go where he wamts them to when the time comes and not directly to someone who is being so manipulative (as in the case of your sister who seems to be puppetering your mum)

I know it early but a lot of older people wait and then its often too late.

I wish you well with everything

plantsandflowers

I know a solicitor is needed really, we were attempting to get as far as we could without resorting to legal means. He has written two letters asking to be allowed in his home without abuse etc. There is the irony, she is threatening him with a non molestation order! Believe me, if you heard the recordings he has make when he has gone back for a few clothes etc, you would understand the abuse he has suffered. The problem is, after he had paid his rent, council tax etc, he will have about £80 a week to live on, so how the heck can he afford to pay a solicitor? I don't know if mum and sister will be getting legal aid? Is it even worth fighting a molestation/occupation order? He has moved out now and only wants a very few things from the house. He doesn't want to see them or live there. I'm sure if it went before a judge (well almost) that he would have a good chance of having any allegations of abuse dismissed with the evidence he has got, ( about 3 hours of audio recordings every time he has gone back).

What he really wants to do now is look to the future. Realistically, what would be his chances of forcing a sale of the house? My mum believes that at her age 87, no court in the land would force her to sell her house or move out of her own home. Meanwhile after 55 years of marriage and working all his life, my dad finds himself living in a one bedroom flat with not so much as a bed to sleep in. Would it be a better idea to sever the tenancy in common and go for a joint tenancy? This mess is getting out of control.