Elderly stepchild

plantsandflowers

1st of all,thanks for the great replies. The questions you are asking are the same I have been asking for the last 2 months. What is her motive? Obviously she wouldn't want to be left with step dad if mum died. Mum has now said she wants to leave her half of the house to her daughter. Which will mean she would be joint owner with my step dad should anything happen to mum. This is why he needs to see the deeds. Joint tenancy or tenants in common?
He can no longer go to his own house without being verbally attacked by both and physically attacked by mum. My mum won't talk to me any longer for taking his side. If I thought for a moment that he had done anything to harm my mum,I would never give him refuge. I know he hasn't. It just seems so wrong that he is sleeping on a couch while my sister (who hasn't had a full time job for over 10 years) has the run of his house and total control of his wife. She refuses to even consider that she may be wrong and point blank will not under any circumstance come with me to the doctor. Instead she insist that she is " looking after" her mum. Protecting her from her evil husband. Remember for all her allegations, she has to date not produced a single scrap of evidence to support her allegations. Dad reluctantly admits that mum might be in the first stages of some kind of dementia but he cannot get her alone long enough to do anything about it. The only way he will be able to afford to live somewhere would be by selling the house. As a house owner he could get housing benefit. This would mean (if it sold) that both he and my mum would end their days apart renting a flat. The who situation is crazy.

rach_k

Has your sister realised that if they split up, the house would be sold and each would buy a small place of their own? If she's just trying to get her paws on the house, the suggestion that mum would be living in a 1-bedroom flat and she will have to find somewhere of her own might help her change her mind.

seven-day-weekend

He doesn't need the deeds to see how it is owned (Unless it is unregistered at the land Registry).

Anyway, if it is owned as joint tenants your mum CAN'T leave it to the daughter if she dies first, it will become his house.

theoretica

What a hard situation. I wonder if Age Concern might have some useful advice, it sounds to me like the daughter might be emotionally abusing both mum (by lies and isolating her) and stepdad.

plantsandflowers

OK. Its been a few days since I posted. Have informed social services safe guarding dept. Have to wait and see what happens there. Latest development. Dad has £2500. He had been carrying it around with him. I advised him to put it in the bank. He was assured at the time that NO one could access his money unless they had his card and pin number. He gone today to find the account frozen. He can't have any money out. He realises now. It was a joint account with my mum who has been in and frozen the account somehow? Obviously my mum can hardly see or hear and wouldn't know what the inside of a bank looks like its been so long since she has had to go (dad dealt with all that. The only way she could have done this is with my sisters influence. So now as well as not being able to walk in his own house. My dad can't even spend HIS money.

System

You do realize that its only time before your sister turns your Mum against you.

Cheeky_Monkey

plantsandflowers wrote: »

My mum won't talk to me any longer for taking his side.

Sadly, that's already happened Judi

plantsandflowers

Already happened. My mum doesn't want me in HER house. My two brothers gave up years ago tying to talk to my sister. My brother died on holiday abroad. My sister believed that he had been murdered by his partner! She gave up her last full time job and took them to a tribunal for constructive dismissal (because she believed the whole of the management were victimising her). She lost obviously. Once again she had NO evidence for anything she "believed". That's what my fsd is up against.

nicter

From what your saying your sister has mental health problems
Has she ever been diagnosed with anything ? Sound like she is paranoid/ delusional

plantsandflowers

She refuses to go to the doctor. She sees no reason to. She just "knows" she is right yet she still doesn't produce any evidence for any accusations. She told my DSD the only reason he can deny it is because he knows she can't prove it. I mean,how can you argue with someone like that? The problem still remains. Dad can't go home. His wife hates him (for seeing another woman) and my sister doesn't believe she is doing anything wrong.