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Ex Brother in Law Wont Repay Loan

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  • Spidernick
    Spidernick Posts: 3,803 Forumite
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    Off topic (apologies), but I am always amazed that people take out a loan for a wedding! :eek: Then there is the law of the inverse ratio (which seems to apply here from reading between the lines, but I may be wrong) of how much is spent on a wedding against how long the marriage lasts.
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  • Gavin83
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    DUTR wrote: »
    The more the thread goes on, the more nonsense it seems, overall it looks like you are making a drama out of the split.

    Lots of issues going on, you say 4 years to pay, yet it's been just over a year, you lent a couple some money yet you only seem to be interested in money off the none blood relative.

    Indeed there is probably lots more to the story that you haven't posted or want to drip feed.

    This. You've shortened the repayment term and seem to be using this more as a way to punish the ex than actually get the money back. Also you don't seem to understand the concept that there is no such thing as 'his share'. If (and it's a big if) you had a case to claim this money back they'd be considered joint debtors, not individual shares divided.

    However if this went to court, especially at the moment you wouldn't stand a chance. You're basically looking towards the goodwill of the ex to pay anything back so I'd suggest being nice to him.

    Also let this be a lesson, don't lend money to people, especially for something as unimportant as a wedding.
  • maman
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    Gavin83 wrote: »
    This. You've shortened the repayment term and seem to be using this more as a way to punish the ex than actually get the money back. Also you don't seem to understand the concept that there is no such thing as 'his share'. If (and it's a big if) you had a case to claim this money back they'd be considered joint debtors, not individual shares divided.

    However if this went to court, especially at the moment you wouldn't stand a chance. You're basically looking towards the goodwill of the ex to pay anything back so I'd suggest being nice to him.

    Also let this be a lesson, don't lend money to people, especially for something as unimportant as a wedding.


    This comes across loud and clear OP.


    For whatever reason you can't seem to grasp that although it may seem fair that each party pays half (or for some reason a bit less than half by your sister's calculations) that's not the way it works in practice.


    I think I'd agree that you're more likely to get something from him by friendly persuasion than the way your going about it but I don't hold out much hope.


    I think, if you pursue this, you might also have to explain why your money was in your mother's account too. I do hope it wasn't some sort of evasion.
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