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  • need_an_answer
    need_an_answer Posts: 2,812 Forumite
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    DCFC79 wrote: »
    Why aren't you getting a new lodger OP ?
    Because the OP likes playing Mary Poppins to these two.
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  • westernpromise
    westernpromise Posts: 4,833 Forumite
    Armorica wrote: »
    Just because it's usually a man, it doesn't mean it can't be a woman who is the abuse.

    And abuse by women of their male partners is under-reported because of the stigma. No one is minimising it. (And it can happen in same-gender relationships)
    I rather think that Red Squirrel is one of those people who thinks that whether something is racist or not depends on the race of the racist. There are quite a few of these virtue signallers about. I think they expect applause for airing their prejudices.
  • getmore4less
    getmore4less Posts: 46,882 Forumite
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    I am sensing such a desperation for company the knowledge that this pair will kick of and provide that interaction is what is letting the OP keep them there.
  • Smodlet
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    Providing colour charts??? How many LLs allow their long term tenants to paint their rentals? Encouraging lodgers to do so smacks of real desperation on the LL's part to me.

    I think you are probably lapping up the drama, FB. I'll leave you to it.
  • FreeBear
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    Smodlet wrote: »
    Providing colour charts??? How many LLs allow their long term tenants to paint their rentals?

    If they are willing to paint & decorate the room, it saves me the time and cost of doing so. It also gives them a sense of belonging and viewing the place as home rather than just somewhere to crash. In the process, developing respect for the fabric of the building.... It seemed like a good idea at the time.

    No arguments, bloodshed, or meals waiting this week. Judging by the washing up on the draining board, I'm guessing they have eaten this evening. Not even sure that they are in at the moment.
    Her courage will change the world.

    Treasure the moments that you have. Savour them for as long as you can for they will never come back again.
  • Red-Squirrel_2
    Red-Squirrel_2 Posts: 4,341 Forumite
    westernpromise wrote: »
    I rather think that Red Squirrel is one of those people who thinks that whether something is racist or not depends on the race of the racist. There are quite a few of these virtue signallers about. I think they expect applause for airing their prejudices.

    Let me know what I've posted that you feel is inaccurate regarding domestic violence and I will happily link to the research and statistics to inform you of the reality.
  • Twopints
    Twopints Posts: 1,776 Forumite
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    westernpromise wrote: »
    I rather think that Red Squirrel is one of those people who thinks that whether something is racist or not depends on the race of the racist. There are quite a few of these virtue signallers about. I think they expect applause for airing their prejudices.
    I rather think that westernpromise is from the Tyson Fury school of thought on a woman's place.
    Not even wrong
  • FreeBear
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    westernpromise wrote: »
    I rather think that <insert name here> is one of those people who thinks that whether something is racist or not depends on the race of the racist. There are quite a few of these virtue signallers about. I think they expect applause for airing their prejudices.

    I agree that some of the more vociferous commentators appear to be applying their own experiences and/or prejudices. I'll not hold it against them - They are basing their opinions on a bare minimum of facts and jumping to worst case conclusions.

    For example...
    need_an_answer wrote: »
    That's a little bit more than 2 toothbrushes and a little bit of clutter if you ask me!

    Colour charts for their room,thinking of painting it whatever colour they want...deluded.

    They've got you wrapped round their finger and if you think that's a business relationship you have,think again.

    They are paying quite a bit to live here. It is reasonable to ask them what colours they'd like their room to be painted in. It is a home, not some holiday camp or prison. The rest of the house, I decide on the decor.

    All quiet, and both the lodgers have been smiles & gentle words apart from Wednesday evening - Something about a bunch of Croatian kids kicking a ball round a field I think....
    Her courage will change the world.

    Treasure the moments that you have. Savour them for as long as you can for they will never come back again.
  • System
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    How much are the lodgers is paying for the month and are you in London?
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  • FreeBear
    FreeBear Posts: 18,216 Forumite
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    rodgerlod75 wrote: »
    How much are the lodgers is paying for the month and are you in London?

    They are paying the LHA rate plus a bit for this area, and I'm no where near London.

    If/when they move out, I have the choice of a prison officer or a trainee teacher lined up. No more couples.
    Her courage will change the world.

    Treasure the moments that you have. Savour them for as long as you can for they will never come back again.
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