Ex wants to be friends but I'm heartbroken

Simple_Soul

Agree with all the above. She was using you as a girlfriend. She likes her men rough.

Absolutely no future for you there. Make a clean break. And yes, it sounds like she was cheating.

Ilona

Another one here says get off Facebook. It was a short relationship, she has moved on, time to look around for someone else.

Ilona

svain

Sounds like you had lucky escape to me. No need to come off facebook altogether, just unfriend her, cut other contact with her and move on.

davidwood681

Why the hell would you want to be friends with someone who cheated on you?

Walk away and leave her to her ex.

TBagpuss

You only knew her a short time, and she has made it clear that she doesn't want a relationship with you. You don't know whether or not she started seeing her current boyfriend before you and she ended it, but either way, it's obvious that you still have feeling s for her and that you are not comfortable with her current boyfriend, so it's best that you don't try to be friends.

Just stay away from her (and his) facebook etc , and move on.

If she contacts you, then a polite "Thanks, but I don't feel staying in touch is working for me, I'd rather we just go out separate ways" is all you need say.

Simple_Soul

Sadly, you have much stronger romantic feelings for her than she has for you.

It sounds like she got badly burned by her ex, and decided to try his opposite. But this has clearly not worked-out for her, and she has now 'voted with her feet' and gone back to him.

This is the age-old 'unrequited love' scenario.

Love has to be felt by both parties in roughly equal measure.
If it is heavily one-sided, it is not sustainable.
And the one who loves more will be the one who gets the most hurt in the end.

ska_lover

I have never managed to stay friends wtih an ex. Kudos to those who do, but for me I never found it do-able

System

ska_lover wrote: »

I have never managed to stay friends wtih an ex. Kudos to those who do, but for me I never found it do-able

Dont think i could do it either. I wouldnt want to leave on bad terms but to stay in contact would rake up old feelings over and over again.

unholyangel

Okay wild theory here, but perhaps you weren't emotionally mature enough for her? I mean I'm younger than you are and just reading your post I was exhausted and thinking about how it all felt high school-ish. Thats fine for some people, I'm not meaning to be harsh here. But its definitely not something I'd entertain. You seem to have had a sort of expectation she'd stay single or get back with you. Plus the facebook stalking, trashing the other guy, sending the emotionally loaded message then blocking her everywhere when she didn't respond within a day.

You were together 3-4 months and you're making declarations of love? She said you should date people your own age, gave you the curt/brush off reply after the break up. Then no contact from her at all. You contacted her and within 4 messages shes saying she has a boyfriend. How sure are you that they're dating and he's maybe not just playing along? I've done it myself before to get peace from guys who just can't take a knock back. And if you're going to pick a friend to be your guy repellent, its more effective if he's a tough looking son of a *****.

As I said, its wild theory and could totally miss the mark. Or maybe it doesn't.

Anyway, I think the replies have been pretty unanimous, you'll be happier if you can forget about it and move on to better things.

OneLife_OneShot

Remove her from your life and move on. She doesn't want anything and you clearly do.

Also since when did having loads of tattoos make someone a bad person? I have plenty and my hands are visible. Also like to think of myself as a decent person. Maybe people just judge things differently.