Separation but no money to move apart

ScorpiondeRooftrouser

MotherInDisarray wrote: »

I don't want a house share for a variety of reasons, not least I then can't have the kids to stay so that's off the table really (at least, in the long term, though I appreciate it would at least get me out of here).

Everyone in a house share doesn't want a house share for a variety of reasons. Nobody is keen on it. People stay in them because the one reason that overrides everything else is that it is all they can afford. If it's all you can afford, you may have to as well.

Jane_B

It seems your options are very limited.
1 - Stay living with your husband and try to work things out where you can live amicably
2 - move in with your parents and take the hit of the extra commute
3 - move into a house share and take your children to stay with your parents when you get them

Good luck, I know this is a hard spell but the best bet will be to try and work on your debt as soon as possible, and try to not get into any further debt while you're working things out

es5595

I'd second what someone else has said, looking at being a lodger for a while. If you have a look on spareroom.co.uk you can find some good options, and even if its only for six months, it will save a significant amount on having a whole place.

Explain to the children's dad that as such, it means you can continue to pay childcare and some maintenance contribution, but in return he needs to go somewhere xx nights a week which you'll spend at 'home' with the children. And for weekends go to your parents.