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Rex_Mundi

happyandcontented wrote: »

I imagine that would hurt your mum very much.

Much more than tracing your siblings would hurt them. People have very different outlooks now and I suspect that your siblings would accept that their father had a past.

I say it more in jest than reality.

To pursue it would require mums cooperation and that may cause her more pain. The last thing I would want is to cause her more upset than this situation already has.

Robisere

It appears that you are gradually accepting your situation, but what does become clear is that you are basically a good guy, with absolute love and respect for your mum and the memory of the dad who brought you up. We are more than our genes, we are also the result of the parents we knew and loved, and the family we grew to love, whether blood or not.



Hold on to what you have and had. It was, and is, the real thing. Good luck.

Redlady.....

Robisere wrote: »

I have been stepdad to a ds and dd for over 30 years. They both tell me that is not true, because "There are no steps between us, you are our dad, the one who was our father was no dad at all." I cannot possibly express how much I love them both, or the 4 smashing grandchildren that I held from the day they were born. For their mother I have the greatest, most abiding love, because she saved my life: before her, I had suffered a family breakdown and the loss of two 'natural' children that I have not seen for many years. I went completely off the rails and was saved by a loving, caring, ready-made family.

In all truth, sometimes blood relationships mean nothing, unless every family member has the same respect, love and simple care for each other.

What a beautiful post