Break up and feeling worthless

MXW

PeacefulWaters wrote: »

Make it complex if you like.

It took me 20 years to get to the point of simplifying life and leaving.

Happiness followed.

I will most definitely not be going back to it, I told him that if it happened again that would be the end of us.

I've lost all respect for him now, not so much him ending the relationship, but how he did it. He had a total lack of respect for me and how I would feel.

DUTR

MXW wrote: »

I will most definitely not be going back to it, I told him that if it happened again that would be the end of us.

I've lost all respect for him now, not so much him ending the relationship, but how he did it. He had a total lack of respect for me and how I would feel.

To be fair OP, my 2nd but one LTR GF was as you describe your ex.
Give it time to reflect on the reality of the relationship and you may find peace.

Sncjw

If he try!!!8217;s to get back with you again say no. Say you have had enough. Forget about him you have spent energy on him to build a relationship but looks like hasn!!!8217;t.

If he wants to go back to having pints in the pub so be it that!!!8217;s his choice. You don!!!8217;t have to worry about him you had enough.

MXW

Sncjw wrote: »

If he try!!!8217;s to get back with you again say no. Say you have had enough. Forget about him you have spent energy on him to build a relationship but looks like hasn!!!8217;t.

If he wants to go back to having pints in the pub so be it that!!!8217;s his choice. You don!!!8217;t have to worry about him you had enough.

That's more or less what I put in my message to him (amongst other things)....and probably why he blocked me.

The truth hurts...and it's the first time I've actually said it to him in all it's glory...instead of making excuses for him and trying to understand why he does it.

I promise you.... there is no going back!

dancing_star

MXW wrote: »

I was happily single prior to him.... I certainly don't need the relationship tag.

Good, you'll be fine then.

I wouldn't waste another second of the rest of my life worrying about that prat and analysing what is going on with him. In the end, who cares? Chalk it up to experience, refuse to fall for it again. Look onwards and upwards and the worthless feelings won't last long.

Pollycat

Sncjw wrote: »

If he try!!!8217;s to get back with you again say no. Say you have had enough.
Forget about him you have spent energy on him to build a relationship but looks like hasn!!!8217;t.

If he wants to go back to having pints in the pub so be it that!!!8217;s his choice. You don!!!8217;t have to worry about him you had enough.

If he tries to get back in touch with you, say nothing at all. Do nothing at all.
He doesn't deserve your time.
He doesn't deserve a reason.
He doesn't deserve you.

FBaby

In a way, it's easier now to move on when you definitely know that you've done everything to make it work, and indeed, you've reached the point where the respect has gone. No matter how much the heart aches and you miss him, the mind is clear that he wasn't right for you.

Pdbaggett

He sounds like a nob.

Block him on everything and leave it at that.

Sometimes people spent to long looking for answers as to people's behaviours when the only question that needs answering is "is he/she good for me", he's not so leave it at that.

Claddagh_Noir

You are well rid of him, he sounds passive aggressive and immature. If anyone did that with me, I would play them at their own game and either block their number so if they try to call me, it would go to voicemail or have a dead tone or change the number altoghether.

Maybe he is a creature of comfort, has intimacy issues and not used to being in a relationship. Move on, leave him to keep playing silly b*****s*

Primrose

I thought I recognised this situation from your previous posts. .
All I can say is !!!8220;think what a fine dance this guy would have given you if the pair of you had ever got round to getting married! At least yiu,ve been spared that grief.

This guy is a serious non committer and has major psychological problems. You are not his mother, his nurse or his psychologist, none of whom I suspect would be capable of resolving his problems.

You sound a very kind and supporting person and there is no need to feel worthless. You,ve gone beyond the call of duty to ray and make this relationship work. The loss is his. Walk away feeling proud that you!!!8217;ve proved to be the more emotionally balanced person in this affair. It,s his loss. I hope you find somebody else who better deserves all the kndness and patience he will now be missing out on.

Please don,t be tempted to fall for the same trick again however much you might still miss him in the short term. I think he!!!8217;s really proved that this leopard is totally incapable of changing his spots.