Wanting to change my child's surname

Toni.benne

Yes it was done on England I wasn't married to him thank god

Toni.benne

Sorry about the lack of full stops? I just wanted to get everything down.

Toni.benne

Tbh my plan is to fill this c100 form in and apply at court, I'll take a chance on them not finding him or him not be bothered and if it comes to it and he won't let me do it ( which o hope it doesn't come to that) I'll then get a solocitor and fight him all the way. In my eyes he hasn't a leg to stand on.

TBagpuss

It isn't up to them to find him.

You will need to provide an address for him and satisfy the court that he has been served (the papers received by him). Before you fill in the C100 I'd suggest that you try to find his address, as you will need to put that on the form.

if you don't want him to know your address you can also fill in a separate form (C 8, i think) to request that your address is kept confidential. Bear in mind he will see the C100 and anything you write on it.

(If you split your posts into paragraphs, with spaces between them, and use capital letters at the start of sentences and full stops at the end, it is easier for people to read them, and to then help you.)

gettingtheresometime

Toni.benne wrote: »

I have never told her cause I don't want to her father was horrible and made my life a misery lucky for her she was too young to know and I cut the chains before she had time to realise

My only comment to that is that she should know if only because there may be a medical condition lurking in his family that she should be aware of

Loz01

Cant you just provide the last address you knew for him or the one he put on the birth certificate? If he's long gone then he wont receive the papers anyway and cant contest it?

swingaloo

Do you intend to tell your child the birth fathers name when she gets older or act as if he doesn't exist?

Ms_Chocaholic

So do you want to change your daughter's name again to her stepfather's name or officially change it to your surname.

elsien

She'll find out for herself the first time she needs her birth certificate for anything.
Who does she think her dad is? There's some information far better being explained properly than finding out by accident.

Mojisola

elsien wrote: »

PS you say your daughter doesn't know anything her biological father.

If by that you mean that she thinks your current partner is her biological father you really need to find a way to tell her before she finds out for herself.

Toni.benne wrote: »

I have never told her cause I don't want to her father was horrible and made my life a misery lucky for her she was too young to know and I cut the chains before she had time to realise

She doesn't need to know the details of how nasty he was to you but she will find out at some point that you have, in effect, been lying to her about your partner being her father. The older she is before she finds out, the worse it will be.

It's much easier to have it 'just one of those facts that everyone in the family knows' from a very young age than try to explain later on or have someone else tell her.