Need Some Perspective

fishybusiness

I think you are looking at ways to upset the apple cart and make yourself feel better after being absent for some time.

I haven't been absent. My children lived perhaps 5 miles away for a long time, after each round of treatment I had about 3 weeks and then I was getting up, driving over, taking them to school, coming home, sleeping, going again in the afternoon, coming home and sleeping again.

When they moved closer, as they are now, I got up, walked them to school, came home, rested, went back out to pick them up, that went on until last September when they moved school.

I was in hospital 4 weeks in 2011, 3 weeks in 2015 early and then 5 or so weeks August/ September 2015.

I'm sure I was absent emotionally at times, and after the 2015 I was in a bad way for months, so visits were short and adhoc.

The apple cart is upset, way beyond a normal setup, I want it easy and to see my children.

The latex again, I'm not stupid, I have done so much research about latex, and have the book used train GP's about latex - it doesn't fit. Will await the GP notes to be clear about it. Any concerns anything would affect the children and we both would have them referred, but mum refuses to do anything.

Also, I didn't say I think my ex is no longer disabled, I said she is much better now than she ever was. Look at it this way, she has driven to Scotland last Friday, had a weekend away, come home and is going back tomorrow for a week. This time of year she used to be laid up, not able to move, and not wanting to see people. That was part of her award criteria - I know because she used to talk about it. Now she is up and about and very socially active - just as I said she is different and I would hazard that if she applied now she wouldn't be eligible.

I started the thread so I could explore my thoughts and feelings, and as I asked to get some perspective, it is doing some good, so great, and I am moving my thoughts around, rearranging if you like. When a parent cannot get to see their childrem through some kind of punishment process, expect feelings are high, as are mine and I think any parent going through that will get that thoughts don't always run as they should.

Ames

I'm allergic to two drugs. Both times it has been diagnosed by a GP on the basis of a rash, the first one when I was a toddler. I've never had tests or seen a specialist. I'm under immunology for something else and they've never questioned the allergy diagnoses, they give me the red wristband every time I'm there.