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Fosterdog

Laura327 wrote: »

I!!!8217;m unsure how long it will take to sign the separation agreement he is dragging his heels over supplying pension details etc which is what it holding everything up.

It is one of these online agents he has used the package costs £1900 and has been taken out on credit (pay in 10 months)

So he has a credit agreement solely in his name to cover the agent fees meaning you have nothing to worry about.

Maybe the reason he hasn't sorted the final child maintenance payment amount is because he is currently struggling to afford the cost of living in the house in his own so needs it sold in order to move on and free up the money

InterestedParty2018

Again, unless he is using an excessively expensive estate agent, or the property is being marketed significantly under value, what is the problem with letting him get on with the sale of the home? These things can take so long, so what is the harm of getting the ball rolling in the interim?

The sale of the house has no influence on what child maintenance he is obligated to pay. (There are fixed formulas for this based on his earnings.)

Without sounding too rude, it does therefore appear that you are digging in your heels (delaying getting the property on the market) until you get what you want, which is a slice of his pension.

G_M

Yes, the estate agent fees (and other selling fees eg legal) will be deducted from the sale price. The final amount (after any mortgage repaymet and all other fees) will be split as per the seperation agreement.

No the property cannot be sold witout your signiture.

If you wish to be involved in the decision-making (eg choice of EA), tell him!

If he refuses to to discuss it and continues to market, against your wishes, simply contact the EA yourself, inform them you are a joint-owner, you have not agreed to te marketing by the them and instruct them to stop.

If the EA ignores you, inform them, in writing, you will not sign any sale contract so any buyer they find will be wasting their tim.

But as I said above - the solution here is to talk to each other, not fight.

Comms69

The amount solicitors charge there wont be £10k left if you don't compromise on certain things....

Laura327

I came on here for some advice and I’ve been attacked right left and centre I have a severely austistic child so have been unable to work since she was born (before this I was working as a social worker) he visits her once a week for 30 minutes (his choice not mine) he never offers to take her to give me a break even though he is more than capable of doing so, but then tells his solicitor I deny him access to our child which I have never done. I don’t believe asking for what I’m legally entitled to is me digging my heels in to steal his money. I’m sorry I asked my original question now.

Comms69

Laura327 wrote: »

I came on here for some advice and I’ve been attacked right left and centre I have a severely austistic child so have been unable to work since she was born (before this I was working as a social worker) he visits her once a week for 30 minutes (his choice not mine) he never offers to take her to give me a break even though he is more than capable of doing so, but then tells his solicitor I deny him access to our child which I have never done. I don’t believe asking for what I’m legally entitled to is me digging my heels in to steal his money. I’m sorry I asked my original question now.

No you haven't, you just haven't heard what you wanted to hear.


What has your child having autism got to do with it?


He's a bad dad, fair enough. he DOES NOT owe you a break.


What he tells his solicitor is his business, nothing to do with you.


The fact is that your original question concerned an amount of money that most people would consider paltry. - ITS LESS THAN AN HOUR OF YOUR SOLICITORS TIME.


Surely you can see how dragging it out is actually costing you money??

BorisThomson

If you were a social worker, you'll understand how messy things can get when you let your emotions take over from common sense. This is what you're doing.

Try to look at this from an impartial point of view, as all the helpful posters on here have done.

FleetwoodSnipa

You guys are harsh, the lady came on for some financial advice and gets shot down with moral and personal judgements? Seriously, if anyone has the relevant answers then please share but don't judge.

Comms69

FleetwoodSnipa wrote: »

You guys are harsh, the lady came on for some financial advice and gets shot down with moral and personal judgements? Seriously, if anyone has the relevant answers then please share but don't judge.

Not ONE person has made a moral judgment, not one.

CurlySue2017

FleetwoodSnipa wrote: »

You guys are harsh, the lady came on for some financial advice and gets shot down with moral and personal judgements? Seriously, if anyone has the relevant answers then please share but don't judge.

No-one has judged anyone but I can see why the OP may not be happy with the responses (including mine) so I will say to her what people always say on this, and any other forum:

This is a public forum therefore you may not always like the replies that you get.

If you can deal with that and pick out what is useful for you, then great.

If you can't and are going to get upset every time you don't get told what you want to hear, then forums are not for you.