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Comms69

TedTrippin wrote: »

No, took years.

Thanks for that insight, now I know your advice is useless.

That's up to you, but ultimately it's not my relationship that has failed. Is it anyone's fault? Just one of those things? There are many reasons why divorce rates are so high, and I do think it's a shame.


You have to appreciate that this situation has been building for a very long time, and whilst you may feel like the victim of circumstance, it's not going to fix itself magically.


Things will be tough for a while, and then they will improve. You cannot control what happens now, but you can control how you deal with it and how you grow as a person through it.

Comms69

anna_1977 wrote: »

Comms69 - not overly helpful comments. People change - sadly this often results in the breakdown of relationships.
I'm assuming it's not at all amicable? I think you need to get some legal advice, a lot of solicitors have a free 30 minute consultation which may help.
My understanding is that she is entitled to pension etc. depends how unpleasant she wants to get.

As someone pointed out. if you're having pretty much 50% custody make sure you are only paying the recommended CMA amount. You do need to provide for the kids when they are with you

Good luck, i hope it works out not too painful for you - divorce and money are hideous!

People change, but it's how those things are handled that often dictates whether a relationship succeeds or fails.


I remember a phrase:
Women pick men and think they will change, men pick partners and think they wont.


It's often so true.


Some relationships will always fail, no matter what. It's not anyone's fault, others could've been saved with earlier intervention. Regardless though we don't have the gift of hindsight, so the OP, like thousands of other people right now, needs to simply look after himself and deal with things as they come.


Throwing around blame does no-one any favours.