Getting money back I lent ex boyfriend

Puffinmonkey

micky2phones wrote: »

Hi, the idea about a loan, if you do go down them lines could work out badly for you if he gets a loan.

He may not give you the money, spend it and the small amount of money he gives you now may stop as it goes to paying the loan back

Very true. I was just clutching at straws really. I've decided to just stop stressing about it, get on with my life and whatever he gives me is a bonus. Thanks for your reply.

System

It really truly is the best way otherwise it'll just eat you up inside, make your life miserable and cost you even more money trying to get it back. Think of it as one of those lessons life teaches you, never to be repeated.

pjcox2005

I think you'd have most success by trying to do the small things. If it's good between you then ask him to up it to £100. State you don't want it hanging over you both, could do with money for kids etc.


With a standing order set up then hopefully they just see it as a standard outgoing and repaid in 6 years (or less depending on what's been paid already).

ReadingTim

Puffinmonkey wrote: »

Yep you are all right. Feeling like a fool but i'll get over it. Makes me want to teach my kids to be better with money than I am and not to be so trusting. Expensive lesson learnt. Thanks again xx

You're only a fool if you don't learn from it. If you have learnt, and the kids learn too, it's money well spent.

jonesMUFCforever

If he had to borrow off you then by implication his credit rating must be dire so getting a loan to pay you off will be a non starter.
Accept the £60 per month but try to accept that after a while he will probably stop paying - move on if you can.

Puffinmonkey

Thanks all. I actually got £75 today, Happy days . I feel sure the payments will fizzle out eventually but until then I'll just take what comes.

dealer_wins

Puffinmonkey wrote: »

Thanks all. I actually got £75 today, Happy days . I feel sure the payments will fizzle out eventually but until then I'll just take what comes.

Thats a right result!!! Hope and pray payments continue!!

agatham

From what you describe, I feel that your Ex is someone who will definitely pay you. He won't cheat on paying you off. What you could do is suggest him to get loan from sites like Zopa.

or suggest him to sell any products on Amazon to make some more money to give you. There are tons of suppliers of products on Alibaba website. You can suggest him to create an account on Amazon or eBay and sell few products through these suppliers. I am sure he will make some more passive money from which he can give you back.

Zopa as I said before would be one of the best options for him to get money.

DCFC79

agatham wrote: »

From what you describe, I feel that your Ex is someone who will definitely pay you. He won't cheat on paying you off. What you could do is suggest him to get loan from sites like Zopa.

or suggest him to sell any products on Amazon to make some more money to give you. There are tons of suppliers of products on Alibaba website. You can suggest him to create an account on Amazon or eBay and sell few products through these suppliers. I am sure he will make some more passive money from which he can give you back.

Zopa as I said before would be one of the best options for him to get money.

Passive money, whats that ? Ok have now googled it and have an explanation. You earn an income without being actively involved.

If the ex was definitely going to repay the OP back then would he not be paying more than the £60 he currently is.

Puffinmonkey

agatham wrote: »

From what you describe, I feel that your Ex is someone who will definitely pay you. He won't cheat on paying you off. What you could do is suggest him to get loan from sites like Zopa.

or suggest him to sell any products on Amazon to make some more money to give you. There are tons of suppliers of products on Alibaba website. You can suggest him to create an account on Amazon or eBay and sell few products through these suppliers. I am sure he will make some more passive money from which he can give you back.

Zopa as I said before would be one of the best options for him to get money.

Hi. I have thought about buying through Alibaba and selling on ebay and amazon myself but how do you know what will sell. Also how do you know the suppliers on Alibaba are reliable?