Ex partner refusing to leave !!!128555;

welshlass5

Hi all, brand new to this. Wondering if anyone else has found themselves in a similar situation, my ex partner has decided the relationship is over after 25 years together. It is all totally his decision, so after about three months of trying to work it out he decides it is over. I left to stay with a friend (as he said he was going to leave) to give him time to make arrangements and move out. A month later and no sign of him making any plans to leave and now he tell's me he's not going anywhere unless i give him a large sum of money. He said he has spoken to a solicitor (i have my doubts about that) so i've been trying to do the same today but seem to be getting nowhere fast. Citizen advice have recommended a mediator but i'm fuming that i have to go to all the expense when he's the one making all the demands and threats. The mortgage and deeds are in my name and he is no longer contributing to any bills, can i change the locks?

BrassicWoman

not married?

did he ever ay the mortgage or more thn half the bills?

can you show that?

have you both earned about as much as each other, any kids, etc?

I would start by moving back in, bringing a frind to stay f it's going to be helpful.

pinkshoes

For starters, move back in!!

welshlass5

Thank you for the replies
We are not married, he made contributions towards living costs, he earns more than me, no children, i moved back in on friday just gone as when i called to the house to see my fur babies my dog was seriously ill and needed emergency surgery. I'm still here as i'm caring for her while she recovers. It's such a stressful situation and i don't seem able to get answers anywhere. I understand he doesn't want to walk away with nothing but it is his decision and i don't see why he can't leave and then make a claim.

WillowCat

Before you see a mediator you really ought to obtain legal advice as to what sort of claim your ex may have. A mediator is there to mediate between the parties - help them come to an agreement - not to give legal advice. It would be unfortunate if they helped you come to an agreement which gives your ex more than he is legally entitled to.

This site gives some idea as to how your ex may have built up a beneficial interest: http://www.mondaq.com/uk/x/648142/Trusts/Establishing+a+beneficial+interest+in+property

welshlass5

Also, if he wants 50/50 and we end up going to court would it take into account his recent inheritance?

BrassicWoman

welshlass5 wrote: »

Also, if he wants 50/50 and we end up going to court would it take into account his recent inheritance?

You're confusing this with marriage

IF he has contributed to the house he may have a share in it

That's about it

If he did, why not make an offer, get it documented as final, and be done with it?

welshlass5

You are right, i am confused. It's a lot to take on board, he broke my heart so it is hard to think things through unemotionally. Right now i feel hard done by and don't want to make a rash or stupid decision that i'm going to regret. I swing from wanting to sell up completely and making a fresh start to breaking my heart at loosing a home i love

BrassicWoman

I think the physical building would remind me of the reltionship too much so I would move

But then I'm pretty clinical!

However for now - has he contributed to the house? So is it fair he gets a share?

You can still change the locks....

BrassicWoman

https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/family/ending-a-relationship/

Gavin83

welshlass5 wrote: »

he made contributions towards living costs

What does that mean? Are you able to provide a bit more information? Did he pay a few more pounds on the bills or did you split bills/mortgage 50/50? Did you own the property before you started your relationship?