Dealing with extreme noise with disabilities.

dekaspace

Penitent wrote: »

The fact that you can reel all that off only goes to show how much this whole thing is consuming you. It doesn't sound like she's going anywhere or that she's going to do anything differently, so that leaves you with only one solution: move away from her. Is your current flat really worth the damage living there is doing to your health?

Technically the reason I reel it off is the autism makes me describe things in detail, just so all the bases are covered.

I can tolerate the noise, tolerate literally is the word its just stressful, but if I move whos to say I won't have even worse problems, then I lose a stable cheap social housing which has excellent repairs and great transport links.

As I type this I am hearing loud men upstairs, I can sleep through it though, but I do keep thinking about how she claims shes a single mum and only has female visitors so insults my intelligence by lying! (not end of world just feels disrespectful even more given the fact she thinks she is the victim but likes to lie and deflect blame to other people)

dekaspace

I was thinking that, but council just mentioned the process of moving means a whole new application, and things like neighbour noise and drug addicts only gets points if its logged constantly i.e a few complaints here and there wouldn't get points.

I originally got points due to health, but also the safety of property as the ceiling collapsed at old place, now I am secure I think will get less points but then I have junkies upstairs who shoot up outside so who knows.

I have gotten to the point in last few months where I feel flats aren't for me unless they are specific types of flats i.e the one I have now and many I have lived in are literal squares and entrance normally is into a small hall and ends up in a living room with kitchen attached, I would prefer a more maisonette style proprety even if its flats i.e maybe a actual front and back door, overall better layout as this square one has a awkward layout and missized rooms, one bedroom is a similar size to living room, one is around a third of the size, kitchen is small (but not tiny) bathroom is tiny.

Never heard of the mind thing, for me I need proper social work support and even respite but cutbacks in years mean its impossible.

Aaand as we speak OMG sounds like the same extreme level of noise as the party the other day, theres no way its anything but intentional as up to the party the level of noise no matter how bad it ever was was never this loud, even sounded like someone running and jumping on spot whilst laughter then a single stomp on the ground.

Well theres a chance but its minimal, I mean in the 15 months of living here the noise has never been as loud as that party Monday and that noise as we speak, this is full on.

Ames

I think Penitent is right. Given all the problems you've had with neighbours perhaps some kind of supported living is better for you? They might be able to help you deal with your abusive friends better too.

I don't know how easy it will be to access though.

If that's not an option and you're not going to get enough points to move perhaps you could look into a mutual exchange?

dekaspace

Ames wrote: »

I think Penitent is right. Given all the problems you've had with neighbours perhaps some kind of supported living is better for you? They might be able to help you deal with your abusive friends better too.

I don't know how easy it will be to access though.

If that's not an option and you're not going to get enough points to move perhaps you could look into a mutual exchange?

Mutual exchange will be fine, but I currently live in a undesirable area, most of the flats that are social housing around me have a lot of migrants especially Eastern European so I doubt its in high demand, put it this way I got it within 2 months of applying, and I have seen flats empty 3-6 months (all ground floor ones as well, maybe another reason why) so doesn't seem to be snapped up fast.

Prinzessilein

dekaspace...I know how you are feeling! I too am autistic (one of a number of conditions)...

Some years ago I moved into a lovely flat. I felt I could be happy there...well, what passes for 'happy' with me!.....and for a few months anyway!...then I got a new 'upstairs neighbour', who took drugs, and had VERY loud late night/early morning parties, and the final straw was him getting a dog that he left alone for hours to yowl constantly....added to this was the new neighbour who moved in and had violent ex-partner who turned up regularly despite an order banning her....Music all night, Dog yowling, Screams from next door begging people to call the police...my dream home became a nightmare....

I contacted the Housing Association...I contacted the Council...I was told that they were aware of the problems, but they were hoping that moving 'troubled' people into this area would give them a fresh start...I was unable to sleep, and my already shaky mental health was spiralling downwards.

Mediation was offered but getting all parties to agree was impossible...and how does one mediate with someone you have heard through the walls threaten to kill your neighbour? (The police were involved but my neighbour refused to bring any charges)

In the end...for my own health and sanity, I accepted that I would have to move.

Best decision ever!!!!

I went to the council, with help from my GP and a social worker....and they allowed me to move in to a retirement building (despite being about 10 years younger than the 'minimum age!)...it was so different!...quiet (most of the time!....the bingo afternoons could get a bit tense! )...peaceful...and even closer to local amenities than my last place!

You are clearly not in a good place for your own health...you should seriously consider moving!

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I agree, it does look like there is a long history of not being able to cope with what is to others the 'normal' irritants of life. They are still irritating and a bugbear but they realise they aren't going to go away and somehow they minimise the effect. I have no idea how but I do see it in others.

But not everyone can do that, whether they have ASD or just a personality that will not allow that. And of course, you have a council that dumps people in places that contain these problems 'to see what happens' (so many of them do this) however dire the warnings that some particular tenants won't find the situation workable. Its not right, but can't change that in one fell swoop with the shortage of social housing that exists. Its been going on for decades in spite of the odd report on the cost of this attitude to some tenants.

So I agree that the best thing is for you to maximise your chances of a liveable property. Just asking for a move is not enough. If you have other physical disabilities, talk about them. Get an OT assessment if one is justified (I've just had one cause I have arthritis and its been my route to get a new kitchen I can actually use that is literally falling apart with a council that won't do even essential repairs).

Apply for more supportive housing, sheltered housing, whatever. In my area there are much more of them that appear on the bidding list than family properties, but you have to be able to bid on them of course. Such housing should give you what you need, a quieter more settled environment, but it may be smaller than you are used to. But you will need to say whatever you have to to get Housing to allow this. Don't just concentrate on the ASD if there is any other more physical health condition that will help your case. Contact your local councillor, MP etc. Mention discrimination, get an advocate (I have one through SEAPs, look on their website). It may help, it may not, depends on the council. When I write and say things it all seems to go into the round filing cabinet, when my social worker writes to the council they seem to listen, even if they work very slowly. But you do need a social worker who will support you and knows how to get the council to listen. Unfortunately, not all have these skills.